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Millennial here. When I got married we skipped rings because ring culture is bullshit. (It was her idea before anyone asks. I suggested we get non-diamond or l

Millennial here. When I got married we skipped rings because ring culture is bullshit. (It was her idea before anyone asks. I suggested we get non-diamond or lab grown, and was pleasantly surprised when I learned she also thought rings are dumb)

Broken_Hippo 7y ago
I'm on the young end of X. My first spouse and I got cheap sterling silver rings from the mall. My current spouse and I just skipped it all entirely. It all feels like ownership. I've also never had a proper wedding - both times I got married at a courthouse. With this one, I had a small wedding/going away party (I moved overseas upon marriage). I definitely do not think I've missed anything.
programmertote 7y ago
Both me and my fiance (now wife) are millennials as well. I hate the ring culture and all the wedding rituals (spending so much money to please others) surrounding it. In fact, I don't even believe in marriage in traditional sense (like going to courtroom to sign on a government issued certificate, which only applies to legal realms) My fiance, whom I believe is fairly reasonable and frugal in all aspects considered, also learned (thanks to the movie, Blood Diamond) that diamonds are not worth the price and unethical. But she still wanted me to spend some amount on rings. So I had to buy decently priced wedding bands (cost about $1700 each). Otherwise, I am sure my fiance wouldn't be too happy (thinking that I married her for cheap). I really was surprised when I first heard my fiance complaining about me not planning to buy rings for our wedding. The marketing and brainwashing of women about rings and wedding culture really work.
- helen___keller 7y ago
  Such is the way culture works. How many rom-com movies end with an emotional scene where the man gets on one knee as his soon-to-be-fiancé is immediately brought to tears?
- lazzlazzlazz 7y ago
  Diamonds being unethical is vastly overstated. "Blood Diamonds" aren't a thing anymore, and end-to-end certification of the diamond supply chain is commonplace.
  - throwawaymath 7y ago
    Do you have something to cite for this?
aksss 7y ago
I know a couple that literally use hose-clamps as their rings. It's adjustable!
trianglem 7y ago
My wife was all gung ho about not having a diamond ring but was overjoyed when I got her a nice one anyways.

Broken_Hippo 7y ago

I'm on the young end of X. My first spouse and I got cheap sterling silver rings from the mall. My current spouse and I just skipped it all entirely. It all feels like ownership. I've also never had a proper wedding - both times I got married at a courthouse. With this one, I had a small wedding/going away party (I moved overseas upon marriage). I definitely do not think I've missed anything.

programmertote 7y ago

Both me and my fiance (now wife) are millennials as well. I hate the ring culture and all the wedding rituals (spending so much money to please others) surrounding it. In fact, I don't even believe in marriage in traditional sense (like going to courtroom to sign on a government issued certificate, which only applies to legal realms) My fiance, whom I believe is fairly reasonable and frugal in all aspects considered, also learned (thanks to the movie, Blood Diamond) that diamonds are not worth the price and unethical. But she still wanted me to spend some amount on rings. So I had to buy decently priced wedding bands (cost about $1700 each). Otherwise, I am sure my fiance wouldn't be too happy (thinking that I married her for cheap). I really was surprised when I first heard my fiance complaining about me not planning to buy rings for our wedding. The marketing and brainwashing of women about rings and wedding culture really work.

helen___keller 7y ago
Such is the way culture works. How many rom-com movies end with an emotional scene where the man gets on one knee as his soon-to-be-fiancé is immediately brought to tears?
lazzlazzlazz 7y ago
Diamonds being unethical is vastly overstated. "Blood Diamonds" aren't a thing anymore, and end-to-end certification of the diamond supply chain is commonplace.
- throwawaymath 7y ago
  Do you have something to cite for this?

aksss 7y ago

I know a couple that literally use hose-clamps as their rings. It's adjustable!

trianglem 7y ago

My wife was all gung ho about not having a diamond ring but was overjoyed when I got her a nice one anyways.