> Doesn’t that mean that you set out to interpret messages in that way? Yes, it does. But then it's still up to me to try to overcome my first reaction. I don

> Doesn’t that mean that you set out to interpret messages in that way? Yes, it does. But then it's still up to me to try to overcome my first reaction. I don't always succeed. > I guess this is the reverse of nonviolent communication. If you always speak and are used to communicating agressively, then people that are being nice suddenly sound condescending. "Always" ? Interesting choice of word when talking about non violent communication :). Snark aside, I don't see myself as communicating aggressively. I may be wrong. I certainly don't put myself in the camp of "people who tell it like it is" though. Also, faking being nice can really be annoying.