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Feel like we're either fat and unmotivated, or overworked and unsatisfied... with only a thin slice finding something in the middle.

40acres 7y ago
Just turned 28 and can say I easily fit the bill for 3/4 of these descriptions. I've been chalking it up to a quarter life crisis and am desperate for a geographic move to add some new experiences to my life.
- notadoc 7y ago
  Moving will briefly introduce new experiences but you will quickly adjust. Finding and developing new interests and hobbies is a much better longterm solution.
  - freehunter 7y ago
    I've moved and helped friends move quite a bit, and in my anecdotal experience, the only way a geographical change helps if either if you just can't do what you need to do in your home town (like moving to SV or NYC for work) or if your home town life is absolutely toxic and you can't get away from it without leaving. I moved across the country for no good reason except to move. Absolutely nothing was different. I was still the same person, except now without friends or family. I wasn't running from anything but everything followed me anyway. I've had half a dozen friends in the same situation. You can't run from yourself. Meanwhile I helped a friend move about a year ago because she couldn't get away from high school drama. She was in her 30s, and still caught up in high school drama from her high school friends. She moved away and made new friends and completely cut her old friends out of her life. Massive difference. I've had friends of friends do the same thing when their family life was toxic. Big help from the sounds of it. Immigrants do it constantly, running from toxic politics to start a new life in a safer place. It works. But if you're running from yourself? You can't run fast enough or far enough. You will always be you. Fix that before you fix your geography, or it will just be a very expensive lesson learned. It took a long time for my bank account to recover from my move and even longer for my circle of friends to recover.
    - im3w1l 7y ago
      > it will just be a very expensive lesson learned. Moving doesn't have to be a financial hit. If you move to an area with higher wages it may earn you money.
      - imtringued 7y ago
        You will have to pay a bigger security deposit.
  - hestipod 7y ago
    In my experience moving from a culture that's miserable for you can make all the difference. I have lived in places that were night and day from where I am now and want to get back but cannot find a sustainable way. If you are moving from Ohio to Indiana or from one town to another where you are then sure not much will change. But I don't think a lot of people realize how different societies and priorities are outside their bubbles. Where I am is the worst sort of bubble culturally and socially I could possibly be in for my mental health. Completely opposite to my core values. But desire isn't enough to "move". You need health, money, assistance.
  - RocketSyntax 7y ago
    Mountaineering has changed my life and my friends & fam now love it too =)
humanrebar 7y ago
Is being fat and overworked in the middle?
- RocketSyntax 7y ago
  Hahaha, you tell me.

40acres 7y ago

Just turned 28 and can say I easily fit the bill for 3/4 of these descriptions. I've been chalking it up to a quarter life crisis and am desperate for a geographic move to add some new experiences to my life.

notadoc 7y ago
Moving will briefly introduce new experiences but you will quickly adjust. Finding and developing new interests and hobbies is a much better longterm solution.
- freehunter 7y ago
  I've moved and helped friends move quite a bit, and in my anecdotal experience, the only way a geographical change helps if either if you just can't do what you need to do in your home town (like moving to SV or NYC for work) or if your home town life is absolutely toxic and you can't get away from it without leaving. I moved across the country for no good reason except to move. Absolutely nothing was different. I was still the same person, except now without friends or family. I wasn't running from anything but everything followed me anyway. I've had half a dozen friends in the same situation. You can't run from yourself. Meanwhile I helped a friend move about a year ago because she couldn't get away from high school drama. She was in her 30s, and still caught up in high school drama from her high school friends. She moved away and made new friends and completely cut her old friends out of her life. Massive difference. I've had friends of friends do the same thing when their family life was toxic. Big help from the sounds of it. Immigrants do it constantly, running from toxic politics to start a new life in a safer place. It works. But if you're running from yourself? You can't run fast enough or far enough. You will always be you. Fix that before you fix your geography, or it will just be a very expensive lesson learned. It took a long time for my bank account to recover from my move and even longer for my circle of friends to recover.
  - im3w1l 7y ago
    > it will just be a very expensive lesson learned. Moving doesn't have to be a financial hit. If you move to an area with higher wages it may earn you money.
    - imtringued 7y ago
      You will have to pay a bigger security deposit.
- hestipod 7y ago
  In my experience moving from a culture that's miserable for you can make all the difference. I have lived in places that were night and day from where I am now and want to get back but cannot find a sustainable way. If you are moving from Ohio to Indiana or from one town to another where you are then sure not much will change. But I don't think a lot of people realize how different societies and priorities are outside their bubbles. Where I am is the worst sort of bubble culturally and socially I could possibly be in for my mental health. Completely opposite to my core values. But desire isn't enough to "move". You need health, money, assistance.
- RocketSyntax 7y ago
  Mountaineering has changed my life and my friends & fam now love it too =)

humanrebar 7y ago

Is being fat and overworked in the middle?

RocketSyntax 7y ago
Hahaha, you tell me.