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Yeah. Any relationship I've been in, it was mostly her doing cooking, dishes, and general home decor, while I did gardening, vacuuming, fixing and hardware setu

Yeah. Any relationship I've been in, it was mostly her doing cooking, dishes, and general home decor, while I did gardening, vacuuming, fixing and hardware setup, and occasionally helped with dishes. Early dating sometimes I'd treat her to a specialty and cook myself, but outside of that I only cook if they aren't already cooking. I've seen so many articles complain about this setup being somehow sexist, but it has always played to our strengths and weaknesses. My partners usually never liked bugs, I can garden. I also find vacuuming relaxing, and I'll take any opportunity to fix somthing to grease my skills. They are usually picky eaters, so my partners cook, they usually like the home kept in a certain way, so they clean and buy things for the home. It is just the way things are, there is no deep-sexism inherent in any of my relationships, just a reduction of the commons

nostrebored 7y ago
Except she's doing things that require significant every day time commitments and you're not. You're a poster boy for what people are talking about. Do you think that women are naturally better at cooking, or do you think that societal expectations have made this basic life skill a necessity for her and optional for you? Your partners having opinions on food or household cleanliness are things that you should take into account as part of a relationship.
- michannne 7y ago
  You seem to have a deep seated issue with both parties choosing independently to do whatever housework they want to do. You're making a lot of assumptions, like assuming I tell anyone what housework to do or thinking that I have never approached any of my partners and discussed what they want to do. I recommend you figure out those issues on your own instead of projecting your views of the world on other's relationships
  - nostrebored 7y ago
    Thinking your choices are independent of socialization (especially when you literally fullfil a stereotype) is absurd. Individual choice removed from societal context is a near myth. Examining your choices to align with morality is necessary. If you don't want people to use their worldviews on your relationships, don't talk about them on a public forum. This isn't a validation group. Some Douglas Adams supplementary reading: http://remotestorage.blogspot.com/2010/07/douglas-adamss-cow-that-wants-to-be.html?m=1 http://remotestorage.blogspot.com/2010/07/douglas-adamss-cow...
    - michannne 7y ago
      >Examining your choices to align with morality is necessary It isn't. My morality is not yours, yours is not mine. Additionally, I don't care if you project your worldviews onto me, it was a recommendation, which it seems you failed to follow. You do you.

nostrebored 7y ago

Except she's doing things that require significant every day time commitments and you're not. You're a poster boy for what people are talking about. Do you think that women are naturally better at cooking, or do you think that societal expectations have made this basic life skill a necessity for her and optional for you? Your partners having opinions on food or household cleanliness are things that you should take into account as part of a relationship.

michannne 7y ago
You seem to have a deep seated issue with both parties choosing independently to do whatever housework they want to do. You're making a lot of assumptions, like assuming I tell anyone what housework to do or thinking that I have never approached any of my partners and discussed what they want to do. I recommend you figure out those issues on your own instead of projecting your views of the world on other's relationships
- nostrebored 7y ago
  Thinking your choices are independent of socialization (especially when you literally fullfil a stereotype) is absurd. Individual choice removed from societal context is a near myth. Examining your choices to align with morality is necessary. If you don't want people to use their worldviews on your relationships, don't talk about them on a public forum. This isn't a validation group. Some Douglas Adams supplementary reading: http://remotestorage.blogspot.com/2010/07/douglas-adamss-cow-that-wants-to-be.html?m=1 http://remotestorage.blogspot.com/2010/07/douglas-adamss-cow...
  - michannne 7y ago
    >Examining your choices to align with morality is necessary It isn't. My morality is not yours, yours is not mine. Additionally, I don't care if you project your worldviews onto me, it was a recommendation, which it seems you failed to follow. You do you.