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It's the complete opposite of an existentialist's nightmare. Online dating boils down to a series of yes/no binary decisions: decision to contact or avoid, dec
by RocketSyntax 7y ago
It's the complete opposite of an existentialist's nightmare.
Online dating boils down to a series of yes/no binary decisions: decision to contact or avoid, decision to go on a date, and decision to continue dating.
Our decisions are the crux of free will.
In contrast, an arranged marriage is an existential nightmare because there is no choice by the individuals involved. Unless of course, they themselves make the choice to love that person no matter what.
- la_barba 7y ago>In contrast, an arranged marriage is an existential nightmare because there is no choice by the individuals involved. Unless of course, they themselves make the choice to love that person no matter what. I wonder if the 'island effect' applies to arranged marriages, and they end up working because of it. I think if two people are in the same, short standard deviation range of whatever criteria (looks, wealth, charm, etc) you use, its likely that they start to like each other no matter what.. (involuntarily ala love marriage)
- krageon 7y agoGiven that in the long term, loving someone is almost definitely a choice (ie something you decide to do and then work towards) I have trouble seeing how it could be anything but obvious that even in an arranged marriage you can see two people genuinely loving each other.
- dragonwriter 7y ago> Given that in the long term, loving someone is almost definitely a choice It's not, though; it requires a choice, but that choice, while necessary, is not on its own sufficient.
- krageon 7y agoI guess we just have a wildly different experience :)