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I have a 6 out of 10 on the Adverse Childhood Experiences test due to my mom and I still have a problem with the idea of putting her in jail over it. Especiall

I have a 6 out of 10 on the Adverse Childhood Experiences test due to my mom and I still have a problem with the idea of putting her in jail over it. Especially for the verbal abuse part of it, which I'm sure you agree hurts worse than the rest of it. Take it from me, things have the possibility of changing given time. Our parents are flawed people often not capable of doing any better than they did. No amount of punishment from the state can make up for that.

lostgame 7y ago
I have actually had a lot of financial and career damage due to these specific incidents, and in certain instances he even acknowledged on paper his behavior was negatively affecting my career and well being and chose to actively continue his hateful behavior. My mother was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive, but recently passed away. While I believe people can change, and am having some level of difficulty with it, unfortunately he does need to be held responsible for the thousands of dollars of damage to my career, at the very least. My psychiatrist and I are working through it, but at this point unfortunately it looks like it will have to be the course of action. :(
- whatamidoingyo 7y ago
  You know you could have just moved out of the house at any time, right? That's what most people do. > unfortunately he does need to be held responsible for the thousands of dollars of damage to my career Stop blaming your problems on other people. It looks weak. It is weak. Do you see here? Are you going to come at me with a lawyer for damaging your career for saying these things right now? Most likely you're going to close the tab and move on with your life, as most would. Sure, you didn't deserve the treatment, but you got it. There was a story I read where a father kept his daughter in the basement for ~12 years (?). She couldn't speak, walk, or anything. She slept tied to a chair. She experienced extreme torture. You were called names. Get over it. Stop being weak. We've all been there, some of us much worse than you could ever imagine.

lostgame 7y ago

I have actually had a lot of financial and career damage due to these specific incidents, and in certain instances he even acknowledged on paper his behavior was negatively affecting my career and well being and chose to actively continue his hateful behavior. My mother was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive, but recently passed away. While I believe people can change, and am having some level of difficulty with it, unfortunately he does need to be held responsible for the thousands of dollars of damage to my career, at the very least. My psychiatrist and I are working through it, but at this point unfortunately it looks like it will have to be the course of action. :(

whatamidoingyo 7y ago
You know you could have just moved out of the house at any time, right? That's what most people do. > unfortunately he does need to be held responsible for the thousands of dollars of damage to my career Stop blaming your problems on other people. It looks weak. It is weak. Do you see here? Are you going to come at me with a lawyer for damaging your career for saying these things right now? Most likely you're going to close the tab and move on with your life, as most would. Sure, you didn't deserve the treatment, but you got it. There was a story I read where a father kept his daughter in the basement for ~12 years (?). She couldn't speak, walk, or anything. She slept tied to a chair. She experienced extreme torture. You were called names. Get over it. Stop being weak. We've all been there, some of us much worse than you could ever imagine.