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Self-promotion[0], but as a physicist dad, I never found the pattern: > Unfortunately, while physics problems have solutions that are constant, baby-related pr

Self-promotion[0], but as a physicist dad, I never found the pattern: > Unfortunately, while physics problems have solutions that are constant, baby-related problems have solutions that are random and change from day to day. What had worked yesterday will not work today. Maybe it will work tomorrow. This is the gist of the Baby Universe. [0] https://medium.com/@philshem/life-in-the-baby-universe-f52561c4a8ae https://medium.com/@philshem/life-in-the-baby-universe-f5256...

girzel 7y ago
I'm finding this to be the case as well. You're trying to detect complex patterns that can take a good week to suss out and influence, and yet which are changing on approximately that same timeframe. You're continually behind the bus.
- stevekemp 7y ago
  And you'll find that the same "thing" will succeed/fail depending on the parent. The way our child behaves/reacts with me is very different to how he is with his mother. For example when our child won't sleep at nap-time, or in the evening, I put him in a pram and take him for a walk around the block. It's a horrid solution, but it works about 90% of the time. When my wife has tried this it has never. once. worked. (He plays differently with the pair of us, and tries different behaviour. It is kinda fascinating to see the difference - part of that is our relative strictness, but part of it is him I think.)
  - pbhjpbhj 7y ago
    Re the pram not working for your wife, the speed can make the frequency of bumps different. Some people can think "trying to be calm and make no noise" and really that doesn't matter so much for babies IME. So perhaps one of you was too gentle? My wife always had problems with nap time when they're a bit older 1½-2. But for me it was a process, starting at lunch, moving through story time, then I'd maybe sing or hum snuggled next to them on the bed. She'd do lunch, then play, then read a story in a really animated way, then try and put them down for a nap and wonder why it wasn't working. A sling is good, ambulatory frequency, close to heart, they feel your breathing, are warm but heat is regulated by the parents body too.
    - stevekemp 7y ago
      For walking I'd say we're both average, but who knows it could be a minor difference like that. As for slings I ruled them out early on - Finnish winters mean that babies, children and parents all need to be pretty warmly wrapped up. That made slings way, way too bulky and impractical.
DoreenMichele 7y ago
I had a total stranger joke "You're hired!" when I got her crying baby to sleep (after she failed) while she led a tour of her new custom home that included me in the tour. It was a party my sister took me to. (shrug)
microtherion 7y ago
Also known as "The Harvard Law of Animal Behavior": "Under controlled experimental conditions of temperature, time, lighting, feeding, and training, the organism will behave as it damn well pleases."

girzel 7y ago

I'm finding this to be the case as well. You're trying to detect complex patterns that can take a good week to suss out and influence, and yet which are changing on approximately that same timeframe. You're continually behind the bus.

stevekemp 7y ago
And you'll find that the same "thing" will succeed/fail depending on the parent. The way our child behaves/reacts with me is very different to how he is with his mother. For example when our child won't sleep at nap-time, or in the evening, I put him in a pram and take him for a walk around the block. It's a horrid solution, but it works about 90% of the time. When my wife has tried this it has never. once. worked. (He plays differently with the pair of us, and tries different behaviour. It is kinda fascinating to see the difference - part of that is our relative strictness, but part of it is him I think.)
- pbhjpbhj 7y ago
  Re the pram not working for your wife, the speed can make the frequency of bumps different. Some people can think "trying to be calm and make no noise" and really that doesn't matter so much for babies IME. So perhaps one of you was too gentle? My wife always had problems with nap time when they're a bit older 1½-2. But for me it was a process, starting at lunch, moving through story time, then I'd maybe sing or hum snuggled next to them on the bed. She'd do lunch, then play, then read a story in a really animated way, then try and put them down for a nap and wonder why it wasn't working. A sling is good, ambulatory frequency, close to heart, they feel your breathing, are warm but heat is regulated by the parents body too.
  - stevekemp 7y ago
    For walking I'd say we're both average, but who knows it could be a minor difference like that. As for slings I ruled them out early on - Finnish winters mean that babies, children and parents all need to be pretty warmly wrapped up. That made slings way, way too bulky and impractical.

DoreenMichele 7y ago

I had a total stranger joke "You're hired!" when I got her crying baby to sleep (after she failed) while she led a tour of her new custom home that included me in the tour. It was a party my sister took me to. (shrug)

microtherion 7y ago

Also known as "The Harvard Law of Animal Behavior": "Under controlled experimental conditions of temperature, time, lighting, feeding, and training, the organism will behave as it damn well pleases."