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I'm 47, a father of two, happily married to high school sweetheart, about to send first kid off to college. I also found the article very sad: not even a pet to

by js2 8y ago

I'm 47, a father of two, happily married to high school sweetheart, about to send first kid off to college. I also found the article very sad: not even a pet to cuddle. :-( But, the piece is well written and I don't think the author is sad, nor asking for sympathy. So I'm conflicted in how I feel about it. The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.

justinclift 8y ago
Their life seems to be a journey and direction different from the norm, yet they seem to be fairly ok with it. It also seems like they'd be pretty unhappy if they'd had a life like yours (father of two ...), more because it's not suitable for them rather than there anything being wrong with it. Overall, seems like an interesting - and potentially useful reminder that "it takes all kinds to make the world go around". ;)
magduf 8y ago
>The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life. The way I read it, it seemed very much like she was an independent woman who really didn't have any great yearning for a close relationship with a man. There's a lot of women out there like that, and honestly, we'd all be a lot better off if they would just admit this to themselves, and stop looking for boyfriends/husbands and just look for casual relationships instead. Someone like that isn't going to be a good relationship partner, and then is going to cause a lot of emotional devastation for some unlucky man.
wildmindwriting 8y ago
I read this article and saw only a wistful look back at the past, contrasting with her life now. I didn't detect any sort of sadness. I read her coming to the realization that she's happy as she is, a single woman in her forties. This article actually made me feel really good but I am a divorced woman of 40. It's nice to see other women in the same situation enjoying life without feeling the need to partner up again. Some of us were just made to be solitary creatures.

by js2 8y ago

justinclift 8y ago

Their life seems to be a journey and direction different from the norm, yet they seem to be fairly ok with it. It also seems like they'd be pretty unhappy if they'd had a life like yours (father of two ...), more because it's not suitable for them rather than there anything being wrong with it. Overall, seems like an interesting - and potentially useful reminder that "it takes all kinds to make the world go around". ;)

magduf 8y ago

>The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life. The way I read it, it seemed very much like she was an independent woman who really didn't have any great yearning for a close relationship with a man. There's a lot of women out there like that, and honestly, we'd all be a lot better off if they would just admit this to themselves, and stop looking for boyfriends/husbands and just look for casual relationships instead. Someone like that isn't going to be a good relationship partner, and then is going to cause a lot of emotional devastation for some unlucky man.

wildmindwriting 8y ago

I read this article and saw only a wistful look back at the past, contrasting with her life now. I didn't detect any sort of sadness. I read her coming to the realization that she's happy as she is, a single woman in her forties. This article actually made me feel really good but I am a divorced woman of 40. It's nice to see other women in the same situation enjoying life without feeling the need to partner up again. Some of us were just made to be solitary creatures.