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> As a couple with troubles conceiving... it was not welcomed. It was salt on a wound. As a trans woman who repeatedly gets ads for period stuff, I feel much t

> As a couple with troubles conceiving... it was not welcomed. It was salt on a wound. As a trans woman who repeatedly gets ads for period stuff, I feel much the same way. At first, I thought it was cute. "Aww look, I even pass to the ad algorithm", and it eventually turned into "oh fuck, another reminder that my body is never going to work the way it was supposed to". And it got stronger and stronger as time went on. It started with the occasional ad for pads in Gmail's promotions tab... then I started seeing ads for period products on Facebook... and then I repeatedly got ads inviting me to take part in clinical studies for painful periods and ads for all different kind of menstrual products, to the point where just loading Facebook would set off my dysphoria.

pbhjpbhj 8y ago
So, you don't want to be treated as if you were female? Would you say that was common amongst males who identify themselves as women?
- teddyh 8y ago
  She wasn’t treated like she were female, she was treated like if she had periods. Which, obviously, not all women have. It’s trans-erasure to assume that they all do.
  - int_19h 8y ago
    Both you and OP are conflating "woman" and "female" (i.e. gender and biological sex).
    - dragonwriter 8y ago
      Not all people of female biological sex have periods, either. Not wanting to be treated as a person with a period isn't the same as not wanting to be treated as a woman or a female.
      - dllthomas 8y ago
        > Not all people of female biological sex have periods, either. Sometimes for emotionally charged reasons.
- maldeh 8y ago
  "If you don't want period-related ads, then you must not want to be treated like a woman?" That feels like a bit of a leap.
  - pbhjpbhj 8y ago
    But the reason they were segmented for period related ads was because they were being treated without discrimination as if they were (to the advertiser) "just a woman". The parent appears to want to be recognised as "not a woman" (in this respect, at least), which goes against everything I've read from others before. So, I was curious and wanted to know if the commenter thought this was common, or if they recognised it as peculiar to themselves. Guess I'll never know because somehow probing peoples overt statements is unwanted here?
    - dragonwriter 8y ago
      > But the reason they were segmented for period related ads was because they were being treated without discrimination as if they were (to the advertiser) "just a woman". I'm pretty sure the complaint is treating woman as equivalent to people with periods, not treating the complaining person as a woman.

pbhjpbhj 8y ago

So, you don't want to be treated as if you were female? Would you say that was common amongst males who identify themselves as women?

teddyh 8y ago
She wasn’t treated like she were female, she was treated like if she had periods. Which, obviously, not all women have. It’s trans-erasure to assume that they all do.
- int_19h 8y ago
  Both you and OP are conflating "woman" and "female" (i.e. gender and biological sex).
  - dragonwriter 8y ago
    Not all people of female biological sex have periods, either. Not wanting to be treated as a person with a period isn't the same as not wanting to be treated as a woman or a female.
    - dllthomas 8y ago
      > Not all people of female biological sex have periods, either. Sometimes for emotionally charged reasons.
maldeh 8y ago
"If you don't want period-related ads, then you must not want to be treated like a woman?" That feels like a bit of a leap.
- pbhjpbhj 8y ago
  But the reason they were segmented for period related ads was because they were being treated without discrimination as if they were (to the advertiser) "just a woman". The parent appears to want to be recognised as "not a woman" (in this respect, at least), which goes against everything I've read from others before. So, I was curious and wanted to know if the commenter thought this was common, or if they recognised it as peculiar to themselves. Guess I'll never know because somehow probing peoples overt statements is unwanted here?
  - dragonwriter 8y ago
    > But the reason they were segmented for period related ads was because they were being treated without discrimination as if they were (to the advertiser) "just a woman". I'm pretty sure the complaint is treating woman as equivalent to people with periods, not treating the complaining person as a woman.