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It's best not to take your own experiences with acceptance about literally any matter whatsoever and use it as a lens to fathom what it's like for other people

• lazzlazzlazz 8y ago
  You've over-analyzed my comment, maybe making a similar mistake as what you're warning me against.
• johnisgood 8y ago
  > It's best not to take your own experiences with acceptance about literally any matter whatsoever This sounds really weird to me. If not my experiences, then what, really?
  • yakshaving_jgt 8y ago
    The key point was not to project your own experiences and perspectives onto other people who haven't had the same experiences, and consequently hold different perspectives, i.e., the second half of the OP's sentence which you elided from your quotation.
• jplayer01 8y ago
  The problem is that plenty of people flat out don't believe a behavior exists when it clearly does, just because they themselves don't experience it or behave that way. It happens so incredibly often - like people who think it's normal to have to sneeze when they go out under the sun and others who then need incontrovertible proof that this happens. I'm not sure what to call it. A lack of empathy or imagination? Lack of respect for different experiential points of view?
  • justtopost 8y ago
    Most people are suprisingly callous to anything that doesn't directly affect them. While some is inavoidable, much is just taught as 'common-sense selfishness'. Common in china, and becoming common in the usa. 'CYA', Look out for #1, Pay yourself first, are all good advice but also self-serving to a fault. We here on HN are certainly only rarely exceptions to this. We just hyperfocus on our domain and wonder how 'everyone else' can't see whats obvious to us.