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Your dad was an American hero, please thank him for all his hard work on my behalf. Men like him built this country by living their lives and raising their chi

Your dad was an American hero, please thank him for all his hard work on my behalf. Men like him built this country by living their lives and raising their children. I'm sure he wasn't perfect, but he's still your dad and I'm sorry you've moved him to a home. Please take good care of him.

zerr 8y ago
Yes, that sounds strange to me - the family of two generations programmers can't afford in-house nursing? I can't imagine putting my parents or grannies in "home" unless I am really poor.
- astura 8y ago
  We don't know the whole story... We're gonna assume he is a great person based on his resume in the 80s? My parents are huge assholes and abused me my whole childhood. I'd lock them up if I could.
  - ilaksh 8y ago
    He is a great person. Please see the comment reply I make.
- ilaksh 8y ago
  I am pretty sure my siblings may not appreciate my discussing our business in public, but just to be clear. My sister and I have been living in his house for the past six months in order to care for him. It had become increasingly difficult to feed or move him because of his dementia and things like compression fractures in his back. After I was unable to get him out of bed last week we decided we were no longer qualified or able to do it. The place he is in now has a lot of experience and it seems like they do not have difficulties. Also there is a bit of a community there which is good. There is not enough money left over of my dad's to pay for two experienced people or actual nurses to be here for the amount of time needed and pay the mortgage at the same time. A few of his children have dedicated quite a lot of time or money, but for those helping and for others, money is usually already allocated to their own families.
  - dang 8y ago
    I'm really sorry that part of this thread turned into a thoughtless public prodding of your family situation. It pains me to see HN being used that way, especially when your intention was obviously to honor your father. It was a fine submission, and I hope the nastier end of the responses won't spoil how you feel about HN.
  - zerr 8y ago
    I'm sorry. You shouldn't have needed to explain your situation.
- dang 8y ago
  I realize there's no mechanism in the text box that prevents people from posting to HN like this, but can you please restrain yourself? What a horrible position you put the other person in, to have to defend their most intimate family situation in public or else leave a gossipy slur like this unanswered. I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, but that's the form it congeals into once you post it. Users need to do better than this here. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
  - zerr 8y ago
    I agree. If possible, feel free to delete this subthread.
ilaksh 8y ago
Thanks, we are doing our best.

zerr 8y ago

Yes, that sounds strange to me - the family of two generations programmers can't afford in-house nursing? I can't imagine putting my parents or grannies in "home" unless I am really poor.

astura 8y ago
We don't know the whole story... We're gonna assume he is a great person based on his resume in the 80s? My parents are huge assholes and abused me my whole childhood. I'd lock them up if I could.
- ilaksh 8y ago
  He is a great person. Please see the comment reply I make.
ilaksh 8y ago
I am pretty sure my siblings may not appreciate my discussing our business in public, but just to be clear. My sister and I have been living in his house for the past six months in order to care for him. It had become increasingly difficult to feed or move him because of his dementia and things like compression fractures in his back. After I was unable to get him out of bed last week we decided we were no longer qualified or able to do it. The place he is in now has a lot of experience and it seems like they do not have difficulties. Also there is a bit of a community there which is good. There is not enough money left over of my dad's to pay for two experienced people or actual nurses to be here for the amount of time needed and pay the mortgage at the same time. A few of his children have dedicated quite a lot of time or money, but for those helping and for others, money is usually already allocated to their own families.
- dang 8y ago
  I'm really sorry that part of this thread turned into a thoughtless public prodding of your family situation. It pains me to see HN being used that way, especially when your intention was obviously to honor your father. It was a fine submission, and I hope the nastier end of the responses won't spoil how you feel about HN.
- zerr 8y ago
  I'm sorry. You shouldn't have needed to explain your situation.
dang 8y ago
I realize there's no mechanism in the text box that prevents people from posting to HN like this, but can you please restrain yourself? What a horrible position you put the other person in, to have to defend their most intimate family situation in public or else leave a gossipy slur like this unanswered. I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, but that's the form it congeals into once you post it. Users need to do better than this here. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- zerr 8y ago
  I agree. If possible, feel free to delete this subthread.

ilaksh 8y ago

Thanks, we are doing our best.