You and I have the exact same fear, literally with all the thoughts and symptoms you describe. Here was how I coped with it. 1) Limit flying, of course. Find a

You and I have the exact same fear, literally with all the thoughts and symptoms you describe. Here was how I coped with it. 1) Limit flying, of course. Find a job that doesn't require travel by plane. Keep family and friends in the same locale if possible. 2) Comfort yourself with statistics. Cars on fast roads with no barriers are pretty dangerous. There's a low chance that you will be one of the unlucky few hundred that die on a plane every year out of tens of millions of passengers. 3) Benadryl + sleep strategies. If I have a morning flight, I stay up all night before hand and then take 2-3 benadryl right before boarding. It takes about 40 minutes to work, and it hits like a truck. 4) Let go of things you can't control :) Hard one....