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It's not the outrage, it's the entitlement. People have always been outraged, the major difference I've seen is the rampant sense of entitlement. I'm not sure

by tw04 8y ago

It's not the outrage, it's the entitlement. People have always been outraged, the major difference I've seen is the rampant sense of entitlement. I'm not sure if it's a result of bad parenting or something else, but it's slowly becoming a major issue for the entirety of the human race.

wild_preference 8y ago
I noticed this over the years on a forum I’ve run for over 10 years. Since ads are pretty much dead for small publishers like me, the forum costs me money. But I run it out of charity. Nothing sucks the energy out of me more than lurking in my forum and seeing users complain about how little I’ve done for the forum. I don’t want to know how many weekend I’ve spent building features for the forum or arbitrating problems between users. The thing is that these posts of entitlement are a relatively knew phenomenon on my forum mostly in crescendo over the last four years. I’m pretty sensitive to it now and it’s easy to spot eveywhere. From people whining that free shit isn’t perfect on HN to gamers complaining that a modder charges for the mod instead of doing it for fun.
- mehrdadn 8y ago
  I think part of the explanation might be the explosion of choice [1]. For better or for worse, the more choices there are, the better people expect them to be to stand out. If you make software that solves a critical problem nobody else's does, I doubt people will feel nearly as entitled about it as about a forum or a programming language or whatever. [1] https://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_on_the_paradox_of_choice https://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_on_the_paradox_of_c...
- chias 8y ago
  I'm in an almost identical situation with an online community that I've built and have continued to work on. Back in the day I could hang out there to relax -- these days it's incredibly draining for me to be around.
rohan1024 8y ago
Completely agree with you. Heck I realized I have the same entitlement issue after running into 2-3 people who were on higher spectrum of entitlement. I was having issue with their behavior but realized I do the same sometimes. I am trying to balance it out. The sad thing is people are not even aware that they have this issue. I think social media is responsible for breeding this sense of entitlement among people.
- tonyedgecombe 8y ago
  I'm not sure it is social media, rather I think it's the price. Free or very cheap opens you up to a group of people you wouldn't normally have to deal with.

by tw04 8y ago

wild_preference 8y ago

I noticed this over the years on a forum I’ve run for over 10 years. Since ads are pretty much dead for small publishers like me, the forum costs me money. But I run it out of charity. Nothing sucks the energy out of me more than lurking in my forum and seeing users complain about how little I’ve done for the forum. I don’t want to know how many weekend I’ve spent building features for the forum or arbitrating problems between users. The thing is that these posts of entitlement are a relatively knew phenomenon on my forum mostly in crescendo over the last four years. I’m pretty sensitive to it now and it’s easy to spot eveywhere. From people whining that free shit isn’t perfect on HN to gamers complaining that a modder charges for the mod instead of doing it for fun.

mehrdadn 8y ago
I think part of the explanation might be the explosion of choice [1]. For better or for worse, the more choices there are, the better people expect them to be to stand out. If you make software that solves a critical problem nobody else's does, I doubt people will feel nearly as entitled about it as about a forum or a programming language or whatever. [1] https://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_on_the_paradox_of_choice https://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_on_the_paradox_of_c...
chias 8y ago
I'm in an almost identical situation with an online community that I've built and have continued to work on. Back in the day I could hang out there to relax -- these days it's incredibly draining for me to be around.

rohan1024 8y ago

Completely agree with you. Heck I realized I have the same entitlement issue after running into 2-3 people who were on higher spectrum of entitlement. I was having issue with their behavior but realized I do the same sometimes. I am trying to balance it out. The sad thing is people are not even aware that they have this issue. I think social media is responsible for breeding this sense of entitlement among people.

tonyedgecombe 8y ago
I'm not sure it is social media, rather I think it's the price. Free or very cheap opens you up to a group of people you wouldn't normally have to deal with.