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Made me think of some of my own experiences with 12-step meetings. I have seen that it's possible to share vulnerably, and to do it with dignity and grace. I've

Made me think of some of my own experiences with 12-step meetings. I have seen that it's possible to share vulnerably, and to do it with dignity and grace. I've also seen first-hand what acceptance and honest sharing can do for a person's sense of self-worth. It's too bad this kind of interaction with others is so hard to find. I don't know that I would have ever found it, if I felt I had another choice.

bmpafa 8y ago
https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability
aantix 8y ago
I find most people will be vulnerable if you start the conversation that way by exposing your own vulnerability. The book Conscious Loving touches on “telling the microscopic truth” which provides a lot of tactics for telling messy, complicated feelings. It’s a wonderful read and will improve your relationships.
- fjsolwmv 8y ago
  Exposing vulnerabilities is also how con artists and cults build rubes' trust.
  - emodendroket 8y ago
    That doesn't seem to disprove the thesis.
    - krageon 8y ago
      That is true, however I think the point GP is making is that the failure mode is too catastrophic to actually entertain it as a possibility (I'm not saying I agree)
      - emodendroket 8y ago
        I guess I find "never seek closeness with anyone at all because they may attempt to cheat you" a worldview too depressing to really adapt for myself.
    - deewelch 8y ago
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girvo 8y ago
My local needle sharing program and doctor run amazing group “therapy” sessions, that they advertise to everyone regardless of their drug usage or lack thereof. It’s a surprisingly diverse set of people, and builds amazing closeness between the people who are there. I’m currently attending one of the sessions every week that focuses on mindfulness, and then explores that within the context of personal relationships. Anyone in Brisbane, checkout QuIHN. Highly recommended :)

bmpafa 8y ago

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability

aantix 8y ago

I find most people will be vulnerable if you start the conversation that way by exposing your own vulnerability. The book Conscious Loving touches on “telling the microscopic truth” which provides a lot of tactics for telling messy, complicated feelings. It’s a wonderful read and will improve your relationships.

fjsolwmv 8y ago
Exposing vulnerabilities is also how con artists and cults build rubes' trust.
- emodendroket 8y ago
  That doesn't seem to disprove the thesis.
  - krageon 8y ago
    That is true, however I think the point GP is making is that the failure mode is too catastrophic to actually entertain it as a possibility (I'm not saying I agree)
    - emodendroket 8y ago
      I guess I find "never seek closeness with anyone at all because they may attempt to cheat you" a worldview too depressing to really adapt for myself.
  - deewelch 8y ago
    I agree with you. By the way, if you have a dog, you can protect your pet’s paws from harsh environments. Ideal for extreme weather conditions, especially in the winter. Protect, warm, and keep your pet’s paws clean and dry. Dog Shoes and Dog Boots come in a variety of colors and sizes so that you'll be able to meet your pet's needs. You need to check this <a href="http://www.petstreetmall.com/Muttluks/1824.html/">muttluks</a> http://www.petstreetmall.com/Muttluks/1824.html/">muttluks</... if you want your pet's paw protected.

girvo 8y ago

My local needle sharing program and doctor run amazing group “therapy” sessions, that they advertise to everyone regardless of their drug usage or lack thereof. It’s a surprisingly diverse set of people, and builds amazing closeness between the people who are there. I’m currently attending one of the sessions every week that focuses on mindfulness, and then explores that within the context of personal relationships. Anyone in Brisbane, checkout QuIHN. Highly recommended :)