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And dear god, no one has to see dating anyone who isn't Kim Kardasian "settling". I've had sex with women who aren't what society considers "above average" but

And dear god, no one has to see dating anyone who isn't Kim Kardasian "settling". I've had sex with women who aren't what society considers "above average" but it was still fantastic. And my girlfriend isn't a model but she and I share a connection that could not be replicated with anyone else. A lot of the issue is society tries to input ideas about what is "sexy" into our heads and a large part of realizing sexual liberation (both for yourself and with your partner) is dismantling those ideas and throwing them in the trash.

abandonliberty 9y ago
Ugh. We have whole communities of these people (e.g. incels). I have female friends who will be single forever with impossibly long detailed lists of requirements that will never be met. It's really quite sad. On the other hand if you can buy into something that isn't considered highly desirable by society but is very prevalent, well, you can have a really, really good time.
- lonelyengineer 9y ago
  I have no such detailed lists. I'm human and flawed, some of it stems from not accepting myself and a lack of self-love.
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  - tasuki 9y ago
    > not accepting myself and a lack of self-love And you're aware of it! That's a very good first step towards fixing that!
    - lonelyengineer 9y ago
      Thank you, it wasnt long before I started thinking if I was undesirable because of my physical features AND my attitude. It's a slow process and I hope I too can one day have a normal life, with someone by my side.
      - tasuki 8y ago
        The physical features aren't nearly as important as you might think. Eg there's plenty of ugly actors who are nevertheless very attractive. Your attitude is pretty good - you're open and eager to improve. Just continue working on yourself!
- joaomacp 9y ago
  I think this is good, genetically. Nowadays, because of media, everyone knows how the ideal human looks like, and if you're not on par with that, then you'll think of yourself as pathetic. Actually, I've realized this myself: my male friends who are tall and muscular have had many girlfriends, and the rest are still virgins. But think about this: our society has naturally evolved to this stage. Before, males had fights to compare who had the best genes. Nowadays, we compare that through TV and media, and individuals without good genes keep themselves from passing them just through self hate.

abandonliberty 9y ago

Ugh. We have whole communities of these people (e.g. incels). I have female friends who will be single forever with impossibly long detailed lists of requirements that will never be met. It's really quite sad. On the other hand if you can buy into something that isn't considered highly desirable by society but is very prevalent, well, you can have a really, really good time.

lonelyengineer 9y ago
I have no such detailed lists. I'm human and flawed, some of it stems from not accepting myself and a lack of self-love.
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- tasuki 9y ago
  > not accepting myself and a lack of self-love And you're aware of it! That's a very good first step towards fixing that!
  - lonelyengineer 9y ago
    Thank you, it wasnt long before I started thinking if I was undesirable because of my physical features AND my attitude. It's a slow process and I hope I too can one day have a normal life, with someone by my side.
    - tasuki 8y ago
      The physical features aren't nearly as important as you might think. Eg there's plenty of ugly actors who are nevertheless very attractive. Your attitude is pretty good - you're open and eager to improve. Just continue working on yourself!
joaomacp 9y ago
I think this is good, genetically. Nowadays, because of media, everyone knows how the ideal human looks like, and if you're not on par with that, then you'll think of yourself as pathetic. Actually, I've realized this myself: my male friends who are tall and muscular have had many girlfriends, and the rest are still virgins. But think about this: our society has naturally evolved to this stage. Before, males had fights to compare who had the best genes. Nowadays, we compare that through TV and media, and individuals without good genes keep themselves from passing them just through self hate.