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I've never met a home-schooled kid who wasn't social awkward. I really hate the current education system, but I also recognize that the social skills developed

I've never met a home-schooled kid who wasn't social awkward. I really hate the current education system, but I also recognize that the social skills developed there are almost as important as the formal education kids get.. perhaps even more so.

fr0sty 16y ago
The plural of 'anecdote' is not 'data'. Do you ask every non-awkward person you meet whether they were home-schooled? Do you ask every awkward person you meet whether they were home-schooled? Do you keep a running count? Sounds like sample and/or confirmation bias.
- pbhjpbhj 16y ago
  >The plural of 'anecdote' is not 'data'. I've seen this a few times. I assume you mean anecdotes told by liars? Surely a plurality of true statements constitutes data? The strength of that data for interpretation or prediction is limited by the number of data points, for sure, but I don't really get why this aphorism is supposed to be true.
  - Dove 16y ago
    It is, of course, literally true that data is composed of a collection of data points -- you could call them anecdotes if you wanted to. But the point of the aphorism is that you can't go the other direction. Anecdotes are isolated instances, things people remember and tell because they are interesting. They lack any sort of statistical control or rigorous documentation. If you have a bunch of anecdotes about socially awkward homeschoolers, you don't have any actual data on the incidence of social awkwardness among homeschoolers. You just have have a bunch of anecdotes.
  - SiVal 16y ago
    Because of the selection process. If you are trying to make a judgment about an entire population based on a small sample, the chance of getting a non-representative sample is already high. If the sample is selected on the basis of what sticks out in memory, the chance of it being representative is almost nil. Though an interesting anecdote or two can be considered data, they are notoriously unreliable as a basis for statistical judgments.
    - pbhjpbhj 16y ago
      I think any reasonable approach realises that anecdotal evidence needs weighing appropriately. In the sibling comment for example if you merely wanted to establish if there are any incidences of children with "social awkwardness" that are home-educated (or if for example this is a product of a particular method of schooling) then you've got your tentative result off the bat. The fact that there are some such results allows you to hone your null-hypothesis and tune your approach to getting statistically significant data. Anyway, I digress, anon.
tbrownaw 16y ago
My sister turned out just fine, and my brother also seems to be doing alright. I had a bit of trouble my first couple years away from home, but then since I supposedly had issues when I went to preschool it probably isn't attributable to the home-schooling. We weren't just kept to ourselves, though. We had weekly get-togethers with other homeschool families in the area, and in the summer we all were in various Parks & Rec sports leagues. Those probably helped us a lot.
joshkaufman 16y ago
I think a child's social skills are very influenced by the type of environment at home. Many families homeschool because they want to intentionally "protect"/isolate their children from the mainstream. This is very common with religious families that choose to homeschool so their kids (1) are exposed to the family's values and belief system to the exclusion of others, and (2) aren't corrupted by the evils of the outside world. That's a perfect recipe for social awkwardness. Isolation is not a primary component of the homeschooling/unschooling approach. In fact, if your goal is to expose your kids to as many cool things and people as possible, more unstructured time doing things in the real world may actually make them more socially skilled than their peers.
- fr0sty 16y ago
  This is just as unfair a characterization of home-schoolers as the GP.
  - joshkaufman 16y ago
    What part do you think is an unfair characterization - that some parents prefer to isolate their children for religious/moral reasons, or that doing so can lead to social awkwardness? According to a 2001 U.S. Census survey, 33% of homeschooling households cited religion as a factor in their choice, 14% objected to what the school teaches (i.e things like evolution), and 9% cited morality. (See data at http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0053/twps0053.html#data http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0053/... and http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0053/tab05.txt http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0053/...) In a 1999 study by the National Center for Education Statistics, only 48.9% of US homeschooling parents cited "Can give child better education at home" as the primary reason for homeschooling. That means 51.1% of homeschooling parents in the US think their kids would get a better education at school, but choose to homeschool for other reasons, which are primarily religious/moral in nature. I'm not saying all homeschooling parents (which includes all religious homeschooling parents) want to isolate their children. The point is that, for a non-trivial percentage of parents, removing their children from the mainstream is a primary motivation for homeschooling.
absconditus 16y ago
Can you describe what you mean by socially awkward? I am not entirely convinced that what is considered social by most people is desirable.
- sp332 16y ago
  Not being socially awkward is pretty basic stuff, like: making friends easily, making small talk with strangers (to pass the time or to be polite when meeting friends of friends), knowing what kinds of questions to ask to keep a conversation going, knowing what topics make people feel awkward or offended. Edit: I'm not the one claiming that all home schooled kids are like this. I'm just answering what social awkwardness means.
tokenadult 16y ago
I've never met a home-schooled kid who wasn't social awkward. I guess you haven't met any of the hundreds of homeschooled kids I have met. To most parents who closely observe the social environment at many schools, it's easy to set up better situations for social learning through a family's own active social interaction with neighbors, friends, teammates, and colleagues in the community. Many homeschoolers, when they are asked, "What about socialization?" respond by saying, "It's one of the reasons I am happy I homeschool."
mcknz 16y ago
There are more social activities these days for home-schooled kids, shared co-ops, and chances for them to get together to socialize with peers. I'd wager for every awkward home-schooled kid there's one in school who is bullied or made fun of. Not all social skills kids learn in school are good ones.
nicholasjbs 16y ago
As a point of comparison, I've met several hundred who are not in the least socially awkward.
- davidbalbert 16y ago
  For the record, parent is my cofounder, was unschooled, and is certainly no more awkward than I am.
joshuacc 16y ago
In addition to what some other people have said, there is a certain percentage of kids who are homeschooled because they were socially awkward in school. In theory, homeschooling allows these kids to develop their social skills in an environment with less risk of serious teasing/bullying. In practice, it depends on how the parents approach things.
Kadin 16y ago
Smells like confirmation bias to me. Unless you go around asking people about where they went to school all the time, unless someone is so socially awkward that it causes you to question whether they had some sort of "different" upbringing, you'd never know whether someone was homeschooled. It may be that a lot of socially awkward people were homeschooled, but that doesn't necessarily indicate that the other way is true. A kid who is struggling and obviously hating traditional school might be more likely to get pulled out and homeschooled by their parents, or families who are isolated for other reasons (politics, religion, etc.) may homeschool, but none of these demonstrate a causative link between homeschooling -> poor socialization.
pbhjpbhj 16y ago
>I've never met a home-schooled kid who wasn't social awkward. The few I've met who are I've tended to find a bit autistic. I know kids from several families (I'm not in the USA) that homeschool and the kids tend to interact a lot better than state-school kids with different age groups - toddlers through to adults. However, none of those I know are single children AFAIR.

fr0sty 16y ago

The plural of 'anecdote' is not 'data'. Do you ask every non-awkward person you meet whether they were home-schooled? Do you ask every awkward person you meet whether they were home-schooled? Do you keep a running count? Sounds like sample and/or confirmation bias.

pbhjpbhj 16y ago
>The plural of 'anecdote' is not 'data'. I've seen this a few times. I assume you mean anecdotes told by liars? Surely a plurality of true statements constitutes data? The strength of that data for interpretation or prediction is limited by the number of data points, for sure, but I don't really get why this aphorism is supposed to be true.
- Dove 16y ago
  It is, of course, literally true that data is composed of a collection of data points -- you could call them anecdotes if you wanted to. But the point of the aphorism is that you can't go the other direction. Anecdotes are isolated instances, things people remember and tell because they are interesting. They lack any sort of statistical control or rigorous documentation. If you have a bunch of anecdotes about socially awkward homeschoolers, you don't have any actual data on the incidence of social awkwardness among homeschoolers. You just have have a bunch of anecdotes.
- SiVal 16y ago
  Because of the selection process. If you are trying to make a judgment about an entire population based on a small sample, the chance of getting a non-representative sample is already high. If the sample is selected on the basis of what sticks out in memory, the chance of it being representative is almost nil. Though an interesting anecdote or two can be considered data, they are notoriously unreliable as a basis for statistical judgments.
  - pbhjpbhj 16y ago
    I think any reasonable approach realises that anecdotal evidence needs weighing appropriately. In the sibling comment for example if you merely wanted to establish if there are any incidences of children with "social awkwardness" that are home-educated (or if for example this is a product of a particular method of schooling) then you've got your tentative result off the bat. The fact that there are some such results allows you to hone your null-hypothesis and tune your approach to getting statistically significant data. Anyway, I digress, anon.

tbrownaw 16y ago

My sister turned out just fine, and my brother also seems to be doing alright. I had a bit of trouble my first couple years away from home, but then since I supposedly had issues when I went to preschool it probably isn't attributable to the home-schooling. We weren't just kept to ourselves, though. We had weekly get-togethers with other homeschool families in the area, and in the summer we all were in various Parks & Rec sports leagues. Those probably helped us a lot.

joshkaufman 16y ago

I think a child's social skills are very influenced by the type of environment at home. Many families homeschool because they want to intentionally "protect"/isolate their children from the mainstream. This is very common with religious families that choose to homeschool so their kids (1) are exposed to the family's values and belief system to the exclusion of others, and (2) aren't corrupted by the evils of the outside world. That's a perfect recipe for social awkwardness. Isolation is not a primary component of the homeschooling/unschooling approach. In fact, if your goal is to expose your kids to as many cool things and people as possible, more unstructured time doing things in the real world may actually make them more socially skilled than their peers.

fr0sty 16y ago
This is just as unfair a characterization of home-schoolers as the GP.
- joshkaufman 16y ago
  What part do you think is an unfair characterization - that some parents prefer to isolate their children for religious/moral reasons, or that doing so can lead to social awkwardness? According to a 2001 U.S. Census survey, 33% of homeschooling households cited religion as a factor in their choice, 14% objected to what the school teaches (i.e things like evolution), and 9% cited morality. (See data at http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0053/twps0053.html#data http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0053/... and http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0053/tab05.txt http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0053/...) In a 1999 study by the National Center for Education Statistics, only 48.9% of US homeschooling parents cited "Can give child better education at home" as the primary reason for homeschooling. That means 51.1% of homeschooling parents in the US think their kids would get a better education at school, but choose to homeschool for other reasons, which are primarily religious/moral in nature. I'm not saying all homeschooling parents (which includes all religious homeschooling parents) want to isolate their children. The point is that, for a non-trivial percentage of parents, removing their children from the mainstream is a primary motivation for homeschooling.

absconditus 16y ago

Can you describe what you mean by socially awkward? I am not entirely convinced that what is considered social by most people is desirable.

sp332 16y ago
Not being socially awkward is pretty basic stuff, like: making friends easily, making small talk with strangers (to pass the time or to be polite when meeting friends of friends), knowing what kinds of questions to ask to keep a conversation going, knowing what topics make people feel awkward or offended. Edit: I'm not the one claiming that all home schooled kids are like this. I'm just answering what social awkwardness means.

tokenadult 16y ago

I've never met a home-schooled kid who wasn't social awkward. I guess you haven't met any of the hundreds of homeschooled kids I have met. To most parents who closely observe the social environment at many schools, it's easy to set up better situations for social learning through a family's own active social interaction with neighbors, friends, teammates, and colleagues in the community. Many homeschoolers, when they are asked, "What about socialization?" respond by saying, "It's one of the reasons I am happy I homeschool."

mcknz 16y ago

There are more social activities these days for home-schooled kids, shared co-ops, and chances for them to get together to socialize with peers. I'd wager for every awkward home-schooled kid there's one in school who is bullied or made fun of. Not all social skills kids learn in school are good ones.

nicholasjbs 16y ago

As a point of comparison, I've met several hundred who are not in the least socially awkward.

davidbalbert 16y ago
For the record, parent is my cofounder, was unschooled, and is certainly no more awkward than I am.

joshuacc 16y ago

In addition to what some other people have said, there is a certain percentage of kids who are homeschooled because they were socially awkward in school. In theory, homeschooling allows these kids to develop their social skills in an environment with less risk of serious teasing/bullying. In practice, it depends on how the parents approach things.

Kadin 16y ago

Smells like confirmation bias to me. Unless you go around asking people about where they went to school all the time, unless someone is so socially awkward that it causes you to question whether they had some sort of "different" upbringing, you'd never know whether someone was homeschooled. It may be that a lot of socially awkward people were homeschooled, but that doesn't necessarily indicate that the other way is true. A kid who is struggling and obviously hating traditional school might be more likely to get pulled out and homeschooled by their parents, or families who are isolated for other reasons (politics, religion, etc.) may homeschool, but none of these demonstrate a causative link between homeschooling -> poor socialization.

pbhjpbhj 16y ago

>I've never met a home-schooled kid who wasn't social awkward. The few I've met who are I've tended to find a bit autistic. I know kids from several families (I'm not in the USA) that homeschool and the kids tend to interact a lot better than state-school kids with different age groups - toddlers through to adults. However, none of those I know are single children AFAIR.