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I think one of the best ways to create deep relationships is to actively help others. Your co-worker mentions that they are moving next month: offer to help mo
by montecarl 9y ago
I think one of the best ways to create deep relationships is to actively help others.
Your co-worker mentions that they are moving next month: offer to help move. Your friend's kids are sick and they are stuck at home caring for them: bring them dinner. If you have some older friends (maybe from church) there are often things around the house they might need help with.
Once you have helped someone once, your name will come up in their mind next time they are in a tough situation. This is almost the definition of a "deep relationship": a person who you know you can rely on and who will help you if you really need it. Other "shallow" relationships are people who you just like to talk to or go have a drink with.
- copperx 9y agoThis is exactly how you do it in adulthood.
- DougN7 9y ago> I think one of the best ways to create deep relationships is to actively help others. +1 You can help someone directly, and you'll become close to that someone. Or as a group help someone and you'll become closer to that group. Service really is the magic bullet.
- atomical 9y agoI have rewarding conversations with people I go on a walk with or have a drink with. If was helping people who are unavailable emotionally because they have some other shit to figure out I don't think I would get as much out of it.
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