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I'm very introverted. That, and a couple of health issues, resulted in me being alone during the past few years. I know it's not normal/healthy, but as weird as

I'm very introverted. That, and a couple of health issues, resulted in me being alone during the past few years. I know it's not normal/healthy, but as weird as it sounds, I don't feel unhappy. I enjoy being alone most of the time, and during the rare moments when feel a bit lonely, standup comedy and TV sitcoms make that feeling go away. I spend my time writing, learning to code, working on my startup, listening to audiobooks, practicing digital art. Most of the time I'm having fun and enjoying myself (when health doesn't get in a way), though having a couple of buddies would probably make my life better. The fact that I live in russia doesn't help finding friends, I feel like all the people I'd like to talk to live in the US/UK/Canada, not here. I understand that rationally this can't be true, but I really have no idea where to search for people I'd have a lot in common with. I like people on hacker news and reddit, I like people who's blogs and books I read, I like people who's youtube channels I watch, but I've never met anyone like that in "real life". I could put myself out there and go to meetups or courses until I find someone I like, but the combination of introversion and the fact that my life is kinda nice as it is, makes it feel like it's not worth the effort. Also I really hope that I'll find a way to move elsewhere, so it's not like I'll build lasting relationships here. Maybe one day I'll move to NYC and end up getting my social life on point, but meanwhile, my projects and the internet keep me pretty happy and satisfied.

wccrawford 9y ago
I felt the same way until I found a couple girlfriends and eventually got married. I still enjoy being alone, though I do feel vaguely sad that my wife isn't with me during some of that time, especially if it's for days in a row. But being alone doesn't make me sad in itself. I guess what I'm trying to say is that not everyone is made the same, and some of us don't really have a problem being by ourselves for extended periods. Others have serious problems with it.
shrimp_emoji 9y ago
>during the rare moments when feel a bit lonely, standup comedy and TV sitcoms make that feeling go away. As someone from the US/UK/Canada, I hear you! These guys are my emotional support animals. https://youtu.be/lHmMv9eMOZo https://youtu.be/lHmMv9eMOZo
david-cako 9y ago
> I feel like all the people I'd like to talk to live in the US/UK/Canada, not here. I know exactly what you mean. The internet means we become much more accustomed to associating with people with similar interests. I have had a similarly hard time, even having lived all over the US. It's just difficult, especially when your interests are things that are very "independent" -- computers, learning, music (at least for me, since it's not generally the type you can go to a bar and listen to). The people I'm closest to are all purely coincidental. Try software competitions maybe? It's really the only place I can think of where I've felt like I could get on with a large portion of the people, but even then I still feel like I have a very different personality. It's a vicious cycle. I consider myself pretty extroverted, but I just am bored by most people. I'm sure everyone else who I might become friends with has the same problem, and thus none of us ever meet.

wccrawford 9y ago

I felt the same way until I found a couple girlfriends and eventually got married. I still enjoy being alone, though I do feel vaguely sad that my wife isn't with me during some of that time, especially if it's for days in a row. But being alone doesn't make me sad in itself. I guess what I'm trying to say is that not everyone is made the same, and some of us don't really have a problem being by ourselves for extended periods. Others have serious problems with it.

shrimp_emoji 9y ago

>during the rare moments when feel a bit lonely, standup comedy and TV sitcoms make that feeling go away. As someone from the US/UK/Canada, I hear you! These guys are my emotional support animals. https://youtu.be/lHmMv9eMOZo https://youtu.be/lHmMv9eMOZo

david-cako 9y ago

> I feel like all the people I'd like to talk to live in the US/UK/Canada, not here. I know exactly what you mean. The internet means we become much more accustomed to associating with people with similar interests. I have had a similarly hard time, even having lived all over the US. It's just difficult, especially when your interests are things that are very "independent" -- computers, learning, music (at least for me, since it's not generally the type you can go to a bar and listen to). The people I'm closest to are all purely coincidental. Try software competitions maybe? It's really the only place I can think of where I've felt like I could get on with a large portion of the people, but even then I still feel like I have a very different personality. It's a vicious cycle. I consider myself pretty extroverted, but I just am bored by most people. I'm sure everyone else who I might become friends with has the same problem, and thus none of us ever meet.