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My problem is that my procrastination is an addiction. There is a voice in my head telling me of all the productive things I need to do, and I enjoy rebelling a

My problem is that my procrastination is an addiction. There is a voice in my head telling me of all the productive things I need to do, and I enjoy rebelling against that voice and doing my own thing. And then there is the nature of working for others, in that it requires a "sacrifice of ego." I shut down everything and become a work horse. I work for hours on end, because this is what I'm supposed to do for a living. I can't question if I really want to be doing this because that would cause me to procrastinate. Instead I become my work. Sometimes I enjoy what I do, but I am specialized in specific technologies so I'm doing a variation of the same tasks over and over. That's the life of this "modern worker."

HiroshiSan 9y ago
I admire those that work menial jobs in order to make a living. Im not sure I'd have the strength to do it myself if I had to. I find it very stoic.
- skrebbel 9y ago
  In all honesty you sound a little disconnected. You'd have the strength to do that, too, if your (children's) livelihood depended on it. It's really not that hard if the other option is being evicted from your house.
  - Aeolun 9y ago
    You think? Some people would just give up. I'm fairly convinced I would. I don't have the mental strength to deal with it.
    - Cthulhu_ 9y ago
      The thing with menial work is that it doesn't require much mental strength - just get on with it, or, have a boss tell you to get on with it. There's something liberating about it. Which is counter-intuitive because some will associate manual labor with slave labor, communist propaganda, lower-class stuff, unworthy work for unworthy people, that kinda thing - but it really isn't.
  - smnscu 9y ago
    Agree with the sibling comment. I've heard that tune (how come your kids don't motivate you, etc) so many times when dealing with crippling depression and anxiety. I have 3 children now and much better mentally, but holy shit did I have my share of trite, flippant advice.
    - skrebbel 9y ago
      You seem to suggest that my comment was (trite, flippant) depression advice. I'm not entirely sure how you can read my comment as depression advice given that nothing in the thread had anything to do with depression. It's like A: Wow I respect people who can lift heavy stuff B: Oh come on it's just a matter of workout C: Holy shit I've had my share of trite flippant workout advice but I have myasthenia so workout won't cut it, come on. (I react a bit strongly because I'd never give depression advice. I have no fucking clue about depression except that well-meant tips from people like me don't help, at best. I stay out of the way and leave depression to trained shrinks and people with experience)
      - TeMPOraL 9y ago
        Here's the connection: A: "Im not sure I'd have the strength to do it myself if I had to" [because I'm depressed / have anxiety issues / am utterly burned out mentally]. B: "You'd have the strength to do that, too, if your (children's) livelihood depended on it. It's really not that hard if the other option is being evicted from your house." C: You missed the [...] part. The depression link is in square brackets. Can't say if it applies to 'HiroshiSan, but it applies to some people (to some extent, including myself - I had moments when I was barely hanging by a thread). Some people doubt they'd be able to handle it because they know they lack the psychological strength. And in depression, being threatened ("you have to do it, or else your family starves") may only makes things worse - it might just push someone past their breaking point.
      - smnscu 9y ago
        I was going off on a tangent, your comment merely reminded me of what I was referencing, so I'm sorry to have implied otherwise.
  - RichardBly 9y ago
    Thats the conventional wisdom. It might work if your kids are in front of you every day crying, but if you are separated from them and have to maintain a mental picture of their need in the same brain, its a disaster.
- Steve44 9y ago
  One of my siblings, the best educated in our family, had what we'd generally call a good career from university until kids arrived. She then went through a couple of jobs at the schools and once our parents started getting old she moved to kitchen staff & waiting jobs. Talking it through with her one day, it made great sense. At the end of her shift, once she'd tidied up and set up for the next shift, she would just walk of of the door and there would be no thoughts of work again until she clocked in the next time. When I was programming my mind was always working, even on holidays ideas would pop up and I'd follow them. I am now in a family business which is with us 24 hours a day. There are times I'm envious of her ability to completely switch off.
  - tonyedgecombe 9y ago
    I sometimes ponder whether it would be better to accept an unskilled job or trade and leave the intellectual stuff to your spare time.
    - TeMPOraL 9y ago
      I ponder that frequently, too. But then I realize that to pull it off, I'd have to somehow move family into the "unskilled job" part of the schedule - so the whole scheme is unworkable.
  - pythonboi 9y ago
    I have the ability to completely switch off after work. I put my 8 hours in and come home. I don't generally have any thoughts about programming when I am home. I switch to "relaxation mode." I guess I adapted after working a stressful job at a gas station with lazy coworkers and bosses. I was also going to college and working at the same time. So I guess I needed to be able to leave work at work and do homework at home. When I come home from work and I do some programming, the next day at work I am generally burnt out and don't do as well as a job if I had spent my time relaxing and resting.
  - Aaargh20318 9y ago
    > There are times I'm envious of her ability to completely switch off. I’m not. For me the hardest part is the switching back on bit. I’d rather not ‘switch off’ if it means having to ‘switch on’ a little while later. I really don’t like weekends, for example. Not that I don’t like having two days off, but the fact that it is only temporary makes it somehow worse than not having it at all. Like you get a little taste of freedom and then it’s taken away. If given the choice I would rather work 7 shorter days than 5 normal days and a 2 day weekend.
- Cthulhu_ 9y ago
  I've done menial jobs; I remember a summer job that involved picking up a little foam square and putting it right-side up on a bit of plastic, one per idk, two or three seconds. It was glorious in a way, I could let the mind wander, listen to a bit of music, and time just flew by. Oh and I got paid too. I think everyone should do some boring work from time to time.
- metaobject 9y ago
  I just wonder what it'd be like to be unable to take your work home with you. Writing software allows me to do my job from wherever I want/need. Oftentimes that ends up being in my bed or at my desk late a night because I fucked around too much during the day.
somestag 9y ago
Along those lines, I've found that a big part of my procrastination and resistance to work (or doing anything productive, really) is that I enjoy my own thoughts too much. Thinking freely is fun. It's creative. It always feels productive. When you're letting your mind wander, you're laying the groundwork for a million future possibilities. Deciding to actually do something that requires cognitive effort removes the freedom. You can no longer think about whatever you want. If you have a cool thought, you need to ignore it because it's distracting. Instead, you need to narrowly focus on one task. It feels like losing part of yourself. Of course that's a terrible way to think about work and life, but it's how I find myself feeling at times.
- TeMPOraL 9y ago
  I suffer from the same thought patterns. Did you find any way out of them?
- throwaway110116 9y ago
  you are addicted to thinking
  - andyjohnson0 9y ago
    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Need_for_cognition https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Need_for_cognition "The need for cognition (NFC), in psychology, is a personality variable reflecting the extent to which individuals are inclined towards effortful cognitive activities."
spdionis 9y ago
> My problem is that my procrastination is an addiction. There is a voice in my head telling me of all the productive things I need to do, and I enjoy rebelling against that voice and doing my own thing. Reminded me of http://existentialcomics.com/comic/13 http://existentialcomics.com/comic/13.

HiroshiSan 9y ago

I admire those that work menial jobs in order to make a living. Im not sure I'd have the strength to do it myself if I had to. I find it very stoic.

skrebbel 9y ago
In all honesty you sound a little disconnected. You'd have the strength to do that, too, if your (children's) livelihood depended on it. It's really not that hard if the other option is being evicted from your house.
- Aeolun 9y ago
  You think? Some people would just give up. I'm fairly convinced I would. I don't have the mental strength to deal with it.
  - Cthulhu_ 9y ago
    The thing with menial work is that it doesn't require much mental strength - just get on with it, or, have a boss tell you to get on with it. There's something liberating about it. Which is counter-intuitive because some will associate manual labor with slave labor, communist propaganda, lower-class stuff, unworthy work for unworthy people, that kinda thing - but it really isn't.
- smnscu 9y ago
  Agree with the sibling comment. I've heard that tune (how come your kids don't motivate you, etc) so many times when dealing with crippling depression and anxiety. I have 3 children now and much better mentally, but holy shit did I have my share of trite, flippant advice.
  - skrebbel 9y ago
    You seem to suggest that my comment was (trite, flippant) depression advice. I'm not entirely sure how you can read my comment as depression advice given that nothing in the thread had anything to do with depression. It's like A: Wow I respect people who can lift heavy stuff B: Oh come on it's just a matter of workout C: Holy shit I've had my share of trite flippant workout advice but I have myasthenia so workout won't cut it, come on. (I react a bit strongly because I'd never give depression advice. I have no fucking clue about depression except that well-meant tips from people like me don't help, at best. I stay out of the way and leave depression to trained shrinks and people with experience)
    - TeMPOraL 9y ago
      Here's the connection: A: "Im not sure I'd have the strength to do it myself if I had to" [because I'm depressed / have anxiety issues / am utterly burned out mentally]. B: "You'd have the strength to do that, too, if your (children's) livelihood depended on it. It's really not that hard if the other option is being evicted from your house." C: You missed the [...] part. The depression link is in square brackets. Can't say if it applies to 'HiroshiSan, but it applies to some people (to some extent, including myself - I had moments when I was barely hanging by a thread). Some people doubt they'd be able to handle it because they know they lack the psychological strength. And in depression, being threatened ("you have to do it, or else your family starves") may only makes things worse - it might just push someone past their breaking point.
    - smnscu 9y ago
      I was going off on a tangent, your comment merely reminded me of what I was referencing, so I'm sorry to have implied otherwise.
- RichardBly 9y ago
  Thats the conventional wisdom. It might work if your kids are in front of you every day crying, but if you are separated from them and have to maintain a mental picture of their need in the same brain, its a disaster.
Steve44 9y ago
One of my siblings, the best educated in our family, had what we'd generally call a good career from university until kids arrived. She then went through a couple of jobs at the schools and once our parents started getting old she moved to kitchen staff & waiting jobs. Talking it through with her one day, it made great sense. At the end of her shift, once she'd tidied up and set up for the next shift, she would just walk of of the door and there would be no thoughts of work again until she clocked in the next time. When I was programming my mind was always working, even on holidays ideas would pop up and I'd follow them. I am now in a family business which is with us 24 hours a day. There are times I'm envious of her ability to completely switch off.
- tonyedgecombe 9y ago
  I sometimes ponder whether it would be better to accept an unskilled job or trade and leave the intellectual stuff to your spare time.
  - TeMPOraL 9y ago
    I ponder that frequently, too. But then I realize that to pull it off, I'd have to somehow move family into the "unskilled job" part of the schedule - so the whole scheme is unworkable.
- pythonboi 9y ago
  I have the ability to completely switch off after work. I put my 8 hours in and come home. I don't generally have any thoughts about programming when I am home. I switch to "relaxation mode." I guess I adapted after working a stressful job at a gas station with lazy coworkers and bosses. I was also going to college and working at the same time. So I guess I needed to be able to leave work at work and do homework at home. When I come home from work and I do some programming, the next day at work I am generally burnt out and don't do as well as a job if I had spent my time relaxing and resting.
- Aaargh20318 9y ago
  > There are times I'm envious of her ability to completely switch off. I’m not. For me the hardest part is the switching back on bit. I’d rather not ‘switch off’ if it means having to ‘switch on’ a little while later. I really don’t like weekends, for example. Not that I don’t like having two days off, but the fact that it is only temporary makes it somehow worse than not having it at all. Like you get a little taste of freedom and then it’s taken away. If given the choice I would rather work 7 shorter days than 5 normal days and a 2 day weekend.
Cthulhu_ 9y ago
I've done menial jobs; I remember a summer job that involved picking up a little foam square and putting it right-side up on a bit of plastic, one per idk, two or three seconds. It was glorious in a way, I could let the mind wander, listen to a bit of music, and time just flew by. Oh and I got paid too. I think everyone should do some boring work from time to time.
metaobject 9y ago
I just wonder what it'd be like to be unable to take your work home with you. Writing software allows me to do my job from wherever I want/need. Oftentimes that ends up being in my bed or at my desk late a night because I fucked around too much during the day.

somestag 9y ago

Along those lines, I've found that a big part of my procrastination and resistance to work (or doing anything productive, really) is that I enjoy my own thoughts too much. Thinking freely is fun. It's creative. It always feels productive. When you're letting your mind wander, you're laying the groundwork for a million future possibilities. Deciding to actually do something that requires cognitive effort removes the freedom. You can no longer think about whatever you want. If you have a cool thought, you need to ignore it because it's distracting. Instead, you need to narrowly focus on one task. It feels like losing part of yourself. Of course that's a terrible way to think about work and life, but it's how I find myself feeling at times.

TeMPOraL 9y ago
I suffer from the same thought patterns. Did you find any way out of them?
throwaway110116 9y ago
you are addicted to thinking
- andyjohnson0 9y ago
  https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Need_for_cognition https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Need_for_cognition "The need for cognition (NFC), in psychology, is a personality variable reflecting the extent to which individuals are inclined towards effortful cognitive activities."

spdionis 9y ago

> My problem is that my procrastination is an addiction. There is a voice in my head telling me of all the productive things I need to do, and I enjoy rebelling against that voice and doing my own thing. Reminded me of http://existentialcomics.com/comic/13 http://existentialcomics.com/comic/13.