Figure out what I can do to be happy with my career given constraints in my life and what I want from life. E.g. I could have a great career but a miserable lif

Figure out what I can do to be happy with my career given constraints in my life and what I want from life. E.g. I could have a great career but a miserable life if I leave my family but that would make me utterly miserable and probably depressed too so is self defeating. I'm not a Steve Jobs or Elon Musk type but I can't stand just cranking out code for the next JIRA each day I need something between. 9-5 and a startup.