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This is getting crazy. Guilty until proven innocent. Seems overly sensitive to me.... there's a huge different between rape / assault and crude jokes or attempt
by aceon48 9y ago
This is getting crazy. Guilty until proven innocent. Seems overly sensitive to me.... there's a huge different between rape / assault and crude jokes or attempted flirting.
Maybe I just don't understand the other perspective enough.
- 1024core 9y agoNobody does anything until there's corroborating evidence. Read the entire article; other people came forward and confirmed that "S" had harassed them or someone they knew.
- aaron-lebo 9y agoIsn't the other perspective having a stranger touch your thigh and send you unwanted messages during and after a professional conference? Is that flirting or a joke? Would you want that? He's not guilty by law, he's been accused, and it's very possible there is enough evidence behind the accusations to make it warranted. Most people don't want to go out of their way to pretend to be the victim (not great word, but nothing more appropriate) of sexual harassment or assault.
- aceon48 9y agoMaybe if there's some compelling evidence or something. But one person's word shouldn't be enough to end someone's career at a company, especially if it's not even at the office. To me, it seems to be "harassment" if the female isn't interested, but that can be a very fine line between the natural relationship between men and women that almost always requires the man to make an advancement and put himself out there.
- meowface 9y agoBut his career didn't end. They suspended him pending the results of the investigation. If the investigation turns up nothing, they would presumably reinstate him.
- Drdrdrq 9y agoHowever his reputation already took a hit.
- czep 9y agoIt would appear his reputation has been well known for a long time, that is precisely how everyone immediately knew who he was even though he wasn't explicitly named in the blog post. This doesn't seem to be a case of a good man being dragged down by an angry mob. This is a well known jerk being shown the door.
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- Ame5ga 9y agoWhat you think of as "the natural relationship between men and women" is not natural at all. It might seem natural to you, but it is an artefact of the culture you live in. If you are a phisically attractive man, women WILL make advances at you and try to have sex with you. I don't know about the U.S., but here in Europe and in Canada it certainly is the case. Try to think of men and women as exactly the same, just with different genitals and bodies. This might be an oversimplification, but it is nearer to the truth then our common preconceptions about men and women. Before I got to that conclusion I used to have only male friends and I didn't get along well with women. Now my closest friends are women. If you seriously believe this "natural relationship" stuff, you might be part of the problem. Also, you're restricting yourself to a certain kind of relationship to women and you're probably missing out on some great experiences, including sexual encounters.
- aceon48 9y agoI'm married. I have only my own dozens of years of anecdotal experience of myself and others. Your world view of "exactly the same" can't be changed, but simple testosterone and estrogen differences alone would argue a lot of differences for the average person. When women start asking men out at a similar rate as men, then maybe there isnt a "natural relationship" anymore. A large preponderance of data from places like Tinder, OK Cupid, etc completely contradict you in a very statistically signifiant way. Call it cultural all you want. I'm just going to call it common sense.
- mjfl 9y agoHow much is "enough evidence" vs "this would be a PR disaster if the accuser went to the press and we held on to the accused", though?
- tigershark 9y agoTo me it seems like a witch hunt nowadays. You need just an unverified comment to get fired and to wear a mark of blemish for life. When the mobs filled with "righteous hatred" are judge and jury of a non-existent trial we know that there is something scarily wrong with our society.
- joshuamorton 9y agoHas this guy been fired?
- tigershark 9y agoFor now suspended, but do you reckon that his life and his career would proceed like before? I believe that he is finished. I don't think that he should go unscathed if he really behaved inappropriately, but between that and destroying him based on an unverified comment there is an ocean in the middle.
- joshuamorton 9y agoSo you think that he'll be fired next week without Google verifying the allegations?
- 1024core 9y agoI hear these kinds of comments every time there's some pushback against such behavior. Despite your shrill protestations, there is no "mob filled with righteous hatred" going around. Where action is being taken, it is with a preponderance of evidence. Only those who have actually indulged in such behavior need to worry.
- tigershark 9y agoExcuse me? How would you find "preponderance of evidence" for a leg touch? I'm genuinely curious. Once while I was stretching on my chair in the office I bumped inadvertently with one colleague that was passing behind me. Do you think that I should be fired and my career ended if she suddenly wrote in a blog post that I touched her?
- pooya13 9y agoYes he touched her leg without her permission. And it would be unpleasant for me if someone touched my leg without my permission. But to be honest it has happened to me before and I think ruining the person's life would be over reacting. A more appropriate response would be to have them on a temporary probationary period. Most people don't want to go out of their way to pretend they'd been harassed (although some would). But it should not be about either the plaintiff or the defendant. It should be about the actual evidence (if criminal beyond the reasonable doubt) and the punishment should always match the crime.
- candiodari 9y agoThe academic world runs on reputation, and nothing, nothing else. Putting someone on probation, even once, destroys their career, or at least halts it for decades. Which is why there are documented murders that people who were in danger of getting hit with academic sanctions committed to prevent those sanctions. Even if secret, the people imposing those sanctions are the ones deciding over the future career of the targets of those sanctions, so secrecy does not matter. What I mean to say is that, firstly, there will be extreme reactions from individuals to any academic action against them. Truly extreme. At the very least they will blow up any cooperation there might exist. Second, everybody else will understand these extreme reactions, because they are justified by the ridiculous cost these sanctions impose on them. Addendum to the second one: often the supporters of people getting accused will threaten imposing sanctions on students of the professors going against their students, if they consider them valuable enough, for the more vague accusations (like plagiarism. Since technically having a single formula in a presentation unattributed is plagiarism, and everybody constantly does that, ... What I mean to say is that there is a LOT of "usual" plagiarism for more basic things and also a lot of accidental plagiarism, which results in that if you're a member of an academic board, you can bring this charge against virtually anyone at almost any time. Add to that that a lot of professors also have cases of less-than-accidental-but-currently-unpunished plagiarism to their name. Things that they committed where the victim couldn't bring a coherent case, but any of their colleagues certainly can construct a coherent case on behalf of their victims. So with one supporter in an academic board, you can get away with a lot. Without a supporter in an academic board, you're career can and will be torpedoed as soon as anyone in that board thinks it'll help them in some way to do that) There are 100 academics, minimum, for every position available (which is one reason why so many "little positions" exist, like board members of conferences). That means one flaw essentially means you don't have a shred of a chance to achieve anything. This means there are no "light" academic sanctions, and the result is that like the medival and muslim punishment for stealing, it causes extreme responses. It means that a thief in the middle east will shoot up a market rather than be arrested for petty theft, and it means a grad student will sue a university for millions to avoid a little note on their diploma saying he got suspended for a week for destroying some university property.
- slavik81 9y ago> Would you want that? That's a dangerous question to ask. By framing it that way, you turn a clear cut matter of overstepping professional boundaries into a personal question.
- kthejoker2 9y agoKind of tautological. The thing no one wants is non-consensual behavior, which by definition is something you do not want. So yes it is personal to the extent that you own your consent.
- slavik81 9y agoSure. The question asked if you would want unwanted messages, which is certainly tautological. It's a pointless question if interpreted literally. I interpreted it more as asking people to think about how they would feel in that situation. That's dangerous, because it opens the door for people to say, "it wouldn't be that big a deal to me." That would be fine if personal feelings were relevant, but they're not. It's unacceptable for someone to treat others this way, regardless of whether they accept others treating them the same way in return.
- kthejoker2 9y agoRight, that was my point, no one can define consent for someone else.
- EliRivers 9y agoTouching someone in a very personal way, at a professional conference, during the professional conference? Obviously we can only ever speak for our personal opinions, but at a professional conference, during the working hours of that conference, I want professional behaviour. I'm there to hear and talk about my profession; some dickhead who sees it as an opportunity to cheat on his wife feeling me up? I take a dim view. Even some tosser trying his luck with a "cheeky" remark (and those tossers always know just how to pitch it for plausible deniability - I know when I've heard someone being out of line, but they act so hurt and so innocent when you bring it up) ruins the mood, and not just for the target.
- sytelus 9y agoIt's not crazy. The problem is that lot of these people are position of power (in the sense they can influence your career, rewards, recommendations or job significantly). So even if the gesture is purely suggestive, women has choice of either not give in and compromising their career OR welcome further advancement to make man happy. The bottomline is that there should not be even suggestive gestures in work environment. The relationship needs to be purely professional. If you are not going to grab and squeeze another man's butt then don't do it to a women. Think about your job prospects being dependent on giving in to someone's suggestive sexual advancements. How would you feel about that?
- atomi 9y agoIn this climate of hyper sensitivity, I doubt there is anyone who is not quietly reflecting on their past behavior and wondering whether they're going to end up in an HR meeting.
- SolaceQuantum 9y agoI have never touched someone’s thighs without their consent, much less while they are presenting their research at a conference. I’ve never even hugged without consent in a professional setting. I’m really not worried nor am I wondering when HR is going to ring me up.
- joe_the_user 9y agoUnverified allegations are a terrible way to deal with any systematic problem. Over time they open the gates to terrible abuses in themselves. That said, this approach has credibility because you have litany of viscously abusive men who managed to make themselves impervious to any other way of being sanctioned. Get enough of that and a larger number of people will view the ends of dethroning these types as a justifying the means of trial by publicity. But if this bad way of solving things continues, eventually there will be a counter-counter reaction. However, rather dealing with the situation, "sht storm to sht storm", what would be nice would be to have a process that allows bad behavior to be dealt with immediately and effectively and clear standard letting any potential bad-behaver know they're going to face consequences. The reason for companies to have strong, clear policies on this sort of thing is to prevent events of this sort from causing more chaos. It seems reasonable that X person who's moving into a position that is going to make them irreplaceable to the company should be investigated even more. Also, applying strong pressure on a subordinate for sex may seem like "just flirting" but it is actually abusive and illegal because it puts the subordinate in the position of fearing retaliation if the refuse. It's different from a person being offensive to a person that don't have a lot of leverage over.
- muglug 9y ago> Unverified allegations are a terrible way to deal with any systematic problem In order to deal with any a systemic problem, you first need allegations to be made. Presumably Google's investigative team (which I've heard is very good) will be able to check the veracity of those allegations, and make a recommendation to his manager.
- joe_the_user 9y agoUnverified allegation are a terrible way to deal with this but they are better than nothing. That said, one would hope that if virtually all universities, corporations and VCs put sufficiently strong policies in place, bad behavior would occur less to begin with and be dealt with quickly when an individual does so behavior rather than having a given individual engage in a long streak of behavior that only stops when a large number of people go public.
- imh 9y agoPartially, this is just bloomberg doing shitty reporting. This is a poor article about a blog post. The blog post itself is much more damning in my eyes https://medium.com/@kristianlum/statistics-we-have-a-problem-304638dc5de5 https://medium.com/@kristianlum/statistics-we-have-a-problem... For any mods reading, it might be better to point the link to the primary material here.
- nilkn 9y agoI agree -- this paints a much clearer picture of why the behavior in question was inappropriate. It reminds me very much of behavior my girlfriend has experienced as a public high school teacher. I could give you an entire laundry list of comments and advances male coworkers have made to her, ranging from mildly questionable to pretty creepy. It really makes me sympathize with Lum, and I find what she's describing here very believable.
- dang 9y agoI agree. It's the original source and more substantive to boot. We've changed the URL to that from https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2017-12-16/google-researcher-accused-of-sexual-harassment-roiling-ai-field https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2017-12-16/google-re.... Thanks! We always appreciate better URLs but I particularly appreciate it in this case, because the discussion was being skewed unnecessarily.
- suyash 9y agoAbsolutely, before jumping the gun it's wise to hear the other side of the story.
- mcguire 9y agoSeems a strange version of 'guilty until proven innocent'. ""Google is investigating the matter," Gina Scigliano, a company spokeswoman, said." ... ""I would like to defend myself against her accusations, but the matter has already been referred to my university’s EEO team, which I’m told will be conducting a full investigation into the matter," Carlin wrote in an email to Bloomberg, referring to the University of Minnesota’s Equal Employment Opportunity department. "So I’ve been instructed not to say anything more publicly pending the results of that investigation." "Evan Lapiska, a spokesman for the university, said the school is "aware of public accusations" involving Carlin but declined to comment further citing privacy protections."
- curiousgal 9y agoThis might be an unpopular opinion but out of the myriad of strong women who are coming out and talking about these horrible experiences, none of them thought about actually documenting them? Like getting actual proof rather than just allegations? I am not saying none of these happened but I am yet to hear of a case where the allegations are supported by tangible proof. (Recordings, emails, etc.)
- sagebird 9y agoFacebook likely has the messages. The accusers in these episodes have been honest, and that’s why we are not seeing demands for evidence. You will not hear S demand the Facebook messages. The only defense he will use is being naive, ignorant, or having “issues he needs to work through”. If he demanded proof, then you may hear more reporting on evidence. The interesting thing is that optically, it works out best to feign guilty until proven innocent rather than challenge to be found guilty.
- fullshark 9y agoYeah there was a huge overreaction to Matt Damon making that exact point the other day. Any sort of attempt to bring nuance to the conversation is interpreted as being apologist. http://www.vulture.com/2017/12/matt-damon-shares-all-his-bad-opinions-on-sexual-misconduct.html http://www.vulture.com/2017/12/matt-damon-shares-all-his-bad...