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I'm pretty sure my wife has it too. She had a trying childhood and parents divorced. The counselors we have seen are happy to take our money and not look beyon

I'm pretty sure my wife has it too. She had a trying childhood and parents divorced. The counselors we have seen are happy to take our money and not look beyond false front she presents to them. They are also keen on validating my feelings instead of believing me that there is something wrong with her. She also cut off ties with family when they did something innocent. She calls her in-laws toxic, and tells our children that. I'm wondering what to do as well, and I don't feel at all hopeful for the future. I wonder if I divorce if my children will develop her same problem.

hie6Rofogo 9y ago
For my wife, I believe childhood events triggered her as well. She grew up in China, not long after the cultural revolution. Her dad was barely home due to traveling for work. Her mother was controlling to an absurd degree. I am concerned about my daughter inheriting the condition. She shows signs of being deathly afraid of being rejected by people. I guess I should study up more and talk to her about it.
kross 9y ago
Stop going to counselors. The standard for counselors is surprisingly low, and many are damaged themselves and bring their own biases into sessions. Research PHDs in your area and talk with a psychotherapist. Go on your own, without your wife and find your bearings. They will help you from there. Don't be afraid to find a different one early if you don't feel they are connecting with you.