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Would love to hear more about why you think that.

• s73ver_ 9y ago
  Well, the "nice guys", who often get upset that women go after the aggressive/manly/"jerk" guys instead of them, and who secretly do believe that women owe them something, would generally be considered jerks. However, few would ascribe aggression as a trait of theirs.
• watwut 9y ago
  Assertive people tell jerks to stop crap openly and jerks then feel like someone is getting in their way. Either you stopped the jerk, made him feel bad or just made his/her act public. And they dislike it. Most jerks think that what they do is their god given right, therefore logically, assertive person must be the one who is jerk. Logic. Meanwhile, non jerks are fully aware that cutting line or being aggressive to dog is not polite or fair. So, even when non-jerk cuts that line because some reason, non-jerks is aware that others have right not to like it and dont assume objection makes you a jerk.
• busterarm 9y ago
  Assertiveness and turbulence are opposites just like passiveness and aggression are. They're ingrained behaviors that people have and most people will usually act appropriately (read: apply those traits) to any given social situation. Luckily most of us are in the middle on this 4-way spectrum. If someone is acting way out of proportion to the circumstances, you go "that guy/gal is a jerk!". If you say "assertive people are jerks", or any of those 4 really, you are making a demand that other people accommodate your needs in social situations. It's a social ultimatum, basically, and if you do it, you're a jerk. Always. You will most often find this quality in passive, turbulent people (this is my natural default) with poor social skills who mistake assertiveness for aggression. (Tangent: Can we redefine 'passive-aggressive' as 'turbulent-aggressive'?)