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Approaching a marriage with a "what am I getting out of this" attitude seems like the opposite of agreeability.
by humanrebar 9y ago
Approaching a marriage with a "what am I getting out of this" attitude seems like the opposite of agreeability.
- i_cant_speel 9y agoI mean, when it comes down to it, most people are getting married because they are getting something out of it. Otherwise, why would would people get married? It just so happens that what people want out of it is often mutually beneficial to the couple.
- humanrebar 9y agoI think approaching a marriage with a utilitarian attitude actually makes less sense since there are inevitably stretches where one partner feels like they are getting a raw deal. Say, a partner gets cancer. Or you have your fifth miscarriage. A healthy marriage is more than the sum of its parts. Part of the point of a marriage is commitment even when you cannot offer as much back, whether due to personal foible or catastrophe. Or even when the spouse gets all those promotions and could conceivably "upgrade".
- whipoodle 9y agoVery noble. But over time, if either party is not getting what they need, that will start to become a problem.