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That's because financial problems are the main reason for divorce. Dual engineering incomes should not have those problems. Happily married to another enginee

That's because financial problems are the main reason for divorce. Dual engineering incomes should not have those problems. Happily married to another engineer for 15 years. Now engineers also like to argue, so put two of them in the same household and see what happens. We do argue about finances, but it's me not wanting to spend money.

gbrown 9y ago
Yeah, let's see an analysis which controls for income.
- pmiller2 9y ago
  There's another graph that shows that divorce rate and average occupational income are linearly correlated, with higher income yielding lower divorce rates. This is all pretty well known, AFAIK.
- cm2012 9y ago
  The link above has a graph showing the industries by medium income. There's a pretty clear correlation, with some outlier professions.
tachyonbeam 9y ago
I think it's also possible that engineering-minded people choose their partners based on more pragmatic reasons, tend to think more about the long term. In opposition to choosing someone primarily based on physical attraction and sexual compatibility, or some mystical belief in love. IMO, engineers less likely to do things the average couple might do, such as moving in together after a month, planning marriage six months in, and having a baby one year in, they're more likely to be patient and make more careful choices.
- MBCook 9y ago
  That's what I was wondering. Could someone measure some kind of 'pickiness' measure to determine if bartenders just tend to get married fast where engineers tend to have a long courtship (or some other factor)? While lack of money making problems worse is certainly an issue I wonder what (if anything) this says about how people choose partners in addition to how things work out.
- burkaman 9y ago
  Marrying someone you aren't particularly attracted to or in love with sounds like a recipe for divorce to me.
  - LaurensBER 9y ago
    I used to think that but it turns out that arranged marriages are quite successful: http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/ http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/ Obvious it's not as simple as comparing the divorce rate of love vs arranged marriages, cultural factors play a huge part but from what I've seen in India the fact that they're committed to making it work seems to make for happy couples.
    - seppin 9y ago
      perhaps the type of person that would agree to an arranged marriage is also the type not to object or try and break such a public contract/agreement.
  - DeonPenny 9y ago
    I would think it would be just the opposite or least if there were financial incentive ok. You fall in and out of love all the time, or at least I do.
  - libria 9y ago
    Parent comment was suggesting less attention given to physical attraction and more to other forms of attraction (personality, intelligence, SES, etc.), not that all forms of attraction were ignored.
  - bluGill 9y ago
    Most people consider love what is better described as lust: a psychological attraction that lasts for about 2 years. If this is all you have to base a relationship on, then after 2 years the feeling wears off and the whole relationship is done. By contrast, if your relationship is based on just about anything else, whatever those other things are are not as likely to change and so the basis of the relationship doesn't change either.
sctb 9y ago
(We've updated the submission title from “Engineering couples have one of the lowest divorce rates” to that of the article.)
seangrogg 9y ago
Do you have a citation for this? Purely to sate curiosity.
- madengr 9y ago
  Nope, just what my mother told me years ago, though a quick google search shows it's pretty high. I'd say it's the highest since "general incompatibility" can mean many things. I can say that in my 20+ years in engineering, none of my colleagues are divorced. All the typical infidelity gossip is from the other side of the business; purchasing, program management, etc.
  - seangrogg 9y ago
    Interesting. Insofar as "infidelity gossip" is concerned, do you believe/perceive that the reason it comes "from the other side of the business" is because of some combination of traits that makes it more likely in those areas (or, inversely, that engineers lack some combination of traits that leads to a reduction in infidelity gossip)?
    - madengr 9y ago
      The infidelity or just the gossip about it? I can't say for sure, but I think the workload required (in school) for an "engineering major" vs. "business major" has something to do with it. If college shapes you, that's definitely the mold. The party'er types are weeded out. Could also be long term decision making vs short term, impulsive vs delayed gratification. Engineering is mostly long term thinking about what can go wrong.
  - vxNsr 9y ago
    It was reported that in the lead up to the first iPhone release the divorce rate among those involved was fairly high. And I'm guessing game engineers probably don't do so well either.
    - watwut 9y ago

gbrown 9y ago

Yeah, let's see an analysis which controls for income.

pmiller2 9y ago
There's another graph that shows that divorce rate and average occupational income are linearly correlated, with higher income yielding lower divorce rates. This is all pretty well known, AFAIK.
cm2012 9y ago
The link above has a graph showing the industries by medium income. There's a pretty clear correlation, with some outlier professions.

tachyonbeam 9y ago

I think it's also possible that engineering-minded people choose their partners based on more pragmatic reasons, tend to think more about the long term. In opposition to choosing someone primarily based on physical attraction and sexual compatibility, or some mystical belief in love. IMO, engineers less likely to do things the average couple might do, such as moving in together after a month, planning marriage six months in, and having a baby one year in, they're more likely to be patient and make more careful choices.

MBCook 9y ago
That's what I was wondering. Could someone measure some kind of 'pickiness' measure to determine if bartenders just tend to get married fast where engineers tend to have a long courtship (or some other factor)? While lack of money making problems worse is certainly an issue I wonder what (if anything) this says about how people choose partners in addition to how things work out.
burkaman 9y ago
Marrying someone you aren't particularly attracted to or in love with sounds like a recipe for divorce to me.
- LaurensBER 9y ago
  I used to think that but it turns out that arranged marriages are quite successful: http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/ http://www.statisticbrain.com/arranged-marriage-statistics/ Obvious it's not as simple as comparing the divorce rate of love vs arranged marriages, cultural factors play a huge part but from what I've seen in India the fact that they're committed to making it work seems to make for happy couples.
  - seppin 9y ago
    perhaps the type of person that would agree to an arranged marriage is also the type not to object or try and break such a public contract/agreement.
- DeonPenny 9y ago
  I would think it would be just the opposite or least if there were financial incentive ok. You fall in and out of love all the time, or at least I do.
- libria 9y ago
  Parent comment was suggesting less attention given to physical attraction and more to other forms of attraction (personality, intelligence, SES, etc.), not that all forms of attraction were ignored.
- bluGill 9y ago
  Most people consider love what is better described as lust: a psychological attraction that lasts for about 2 years. If this is all you have to base a relationship on, then after 2 years the feeling wears off and the whole relationship is done. By contrast, if your relationship is based on just about anything else, whatever those other things are are not as likely to change and so the basis of the relationship doesn't change either.

sctb 9y ago

(We've updated the submission title from “Engineering couples have one of the lowest divorce rates” to that of the article.)

seangrogg 9y ago

Do you have a citation for this? Purely to sate curiosity.

madengr 9y ago
Nope, just what my mother told me years ago, though a quick google search shows it's pretty high. I'd say it's the highest since "general incompatibility" can mean many things. I can say that in my 20+ years in engineering, none of my colleagues are divorced. All the typical infidelity gossip is from the other side of the business; purchasing, program management, etc.
- seangrogg 9y ago
  Interesting. Insofar as "infidelity gossip" is concerned, do you believe/perceive that the reason it comes "from the other side of the business" is because of some combination of traits that makes it more likely in those areas (or, inversely, that engineers lack some combination of traits that leads to a reduction in infidelity gossip)?
  - madengr 9y ago
    The infidelity or just the gossip about it? I can't say for sure, but I think the workload required (in school) for an "engineering major" vs. "business major" has something to do with it. If college shapes you, that's definitely the mold. The party'er types are weeded out. Could also be long term decision making vs short term, impulsive vs delayed gratification. Engineering is mostly long term thinking about what can go wrong.
- vxNsr 9y ago
  It was reported that in the lead up to the first iPhone release the divorce rate among those involved was fairly high. And I'm guessing game engineers probably don't do so well either.
  - watwut 9y ago