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i know a thing or two about loneliness. there have been periods of my life during which, i am now sure, i experienced some of the deepest loneliness that a pers
by bronz 9y ago
i know a thing or two about loneliness. there have been periods of my life during which, i am now sure, i experienced some of the deepest loneliness that a person might ever experience outside of being marooned on a small island.
i guess i wont go into detail but i was completely alone for four years. during that time i developed mental health problems and negative habits that, at the time, i did not realize were due to loneliness. this was compounded by super bad stress from other things in my life. i reached profoundly low states of mental well-being -- looking back i actually am astonished. there is no doubt in my mind that whatever i encounter later in terms of loneliness, it will never come close to that.
after four years i met a girl and we lived together for another three years. the article hits the nail on the head about married couples -- having an so is the number one solution for loneliness. it turned my whole situation around and has left me off much better even though the relationship came to a sad end. if any of you guys are stuck being super lonely, i would recommend getting a girlfriend no matter the cost. also, i would recommend taking a complete multivitamin. something in those things makes my depression a lot better. good luck.
- throwanem 9y agoI can't really go along here. Sure, getting into a relationship with someone who's reasonably compatible with you will do a lot to ameliorate loneliness. But getting into a relationship "no matter the cost" is not a good way to find someone reasonably compatible with yourself, and being distracted from feeling lonely by the many other problems such a person can bring is not really the same as no longer feeling lonely. You just end up lonely and miserable.
- Aaargh20318 9y ago> i guess i wont go into detail but i was completely alone for four years. As someone who craves solitude, how did you manage this ? I can't even go a day without seeing another human being, let alone 4 years. How do you get food, income, housing ?
- tacostakohashi 9y agoI'm sure you can get a few tips from this guy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christopher_Thomas_Knight https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christopher_Thomas_Knight
- Aaargh20318 9y agoI wish. I live in a small and very densely populated country. There is no woodland or anything even resembling it here.
- logicchains 9y agoCounterpoint: the only time I ever felt really lonely was during my first marriage. Being married to the wrong person can be lonelier than being alone. On the subject of vitamins, I've found fish oil seems to improve mood, if one has an otherwise fish-free diet.