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I think the parents in this article need to grow up. If you have so little emotional maturity that your kid's tantrum makes you upset you have a problem. They

I think the parents in this article need to grow up. If you have so little emotional maturity that your kid's tantrum makes you upset you have a problem. They are the children, you are the adult. Act like one. I have two kids, 3 and 6. My 3 year old is at a stage where she throws epic tantrums, mostly when she is tired but this heat wave we are in on the east coast doesn't help. When she is in full flail I look at her and smile and say "you can do better than that if you try". I don't feel bad as a parent that she is having a tantrum, she doesn't have the emotional control yet. She will - my 6 year old went through the same thing and when the 3 year old starts up my 6 year old now rolls her eyes and smiles.

pbhjpbhj 16y ago
>When she is in full flail I look at her and smile and say "you can do better than that if you try". I have a friend who has 2 girls, he did this sort of playful taunting with them and it had similar effects to yours. This sort of thing has not worked at all with my eldest (and we're just entering the tantrum zone with the youngest, hold tight!) who would simply do worse, smashing, hitting, kicking, biting in response. When they are damaging property and hurting people then IMO intervention is required. Yes, standing back and letting him blow off some steam has helped on occasions but has not been half as effective as for my friend's girls. Not all kids are the same. My lad brought me to tears once because he was hurting himself having a tantrum and couldn't be calmed. I don't consider my response childish, but I'm not an objective observer.
- Tichy 16y ago
  I guess that is when you remember stuff like "never negotiate with terrorists"? Presumably it is kind of the job of kids to test their parents' limits...