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> I am guessing you haven't approached women much? That's not really called for! The GP is right though; you're unlikely to be, say, given a slap or yelled at
by ErrantX 16y ago
> I am guessing you haven't approached women much?
That's not really called for! The GP is right though; you're unlikely to be, say, given a slap or yelled at! This assumes, of course, your not being leery or crude and not asking them on a date straight off. etc. (where you will likely get a slap).
But there is nothing wrong with saying hi and having casual conversation with someone in the grocery store. 99 times out of 100 it will just fizzle out after a couple of seconds - one time in a hundred you might hit on a common interest and the rest, as they say, is history. I've met a number of great girlfriends in this way.
It's also a great way to get over shyness.
Also; you should talk to random people anyway. It brightens up their day and yours in a perfectly harmless way.
There is this social convention that we all must be silent and look dead ahead when queuing, for example. Everyone I know thinks it is silly but they don't want to be the first to broach the convention - just in case....
- pbhjpbhj 16y ago>and not asking them on a date straight off. etc. (where you will likely get a slap). Can't you/couldn't a woman just say "no"?
- ErrantX 16y agoYeh, that referred to the crude bit - I was typing a bit fast.
- Tichy 16y ago"That's not really called for" Didn't mean it in a nasty way. And yes, actual physical attacks are unlikely as a response. Unfriendliness is rather likely, though. But if you have a hardened "shell", no problem. Or if you have become very adept at chatting. Also, if those single girls at grocery stores are so desperate, why don't they make a move themselves?
- ErrantX 16y ago> Unfriendliness is rather likely, though. I'd say that is highly unlikely also. At worst you'll just get ignored :) but generally anyone will talk to you if you look and speak normal/friendly. > Also, if those single girls at grocery stores are so desperate, why don't they make a move themselves? Social convention. Also; this is the beginnings of a strawman because it's not like that at all :) the GP is just suggesting we talk to people more - which is always a good thing!