Patriarchy is not 100% beneficial to men, that's true. I'll agree with my sibling comment that men do hang out on the internet talking burrito shits. I'll poi

Patriarchy is not 100% beneficial to men, that's true. I'll agree with my sibling comment that men do hang out on the internet talking burrito shits. I'll point to reddit, or garage journal, or advrider or any number of gun sites' off-topic sections. These gendered modes of behavior you're complaining about are symptoms of the patriarchy; they are some of the few easy ways to reclaim a bit of personal power. They are not, however, woman-specific. I've known men that act dumb on purpose for help, I've known men that have never grown up and I know conflict averse men. Conflict aversion rarely causes a person to pay a price, beyond a greater likely-hood of losing the conflict. The only woman-specific aspect to your complaint is the language you use to describe it. It is sufficiently harmful to women that they are collectively motivated to form political groups to do something about it, despite a relatively high cost (compared to do nothing) for doing so. I'm not sure which halls of power you're talking about. Certainly not political halls of power. I assume you're talking about cultural halls of power, like, say, Jezebel or the NYT? I think loudly defending certain strains of feminism is a class marker, but I don't think the defense translates into action that makes a difference beyond mildly offending people such as yourself. It looks like what you would prefer is for women to gain equality by not talking about their problems, not organizing to solve their problems and not acting in ways that have feminine descriptors. I rather doubt that is possible.