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Exactly. I'm tired of self-proclaimed internet veterans witnessing people digging in on individual online conversations and then concluding that nobody ever cha

by sofal 9y ago

Exactly. I'm tired of self-proclaimed internet veterans witnessing people digging in on individual online conversations and then concluding that nobody ever changes their mind and all debate/discussion is pointless. I have done a 180 on so many positions I used to have thanks in no small part to people online who did not take this asinine defeatist perspective and went ahead and engaged in debate while the other side (including me) just dug their heels in during the actual conversation. I think a lot of people need to be educated about what the benefits of debate are and how they manifest slowly over time.

worldsayshi 9y ago
This needs to be said. I just which there was a better way to retroactively deliver that feedback. That could diminish defeatism.
scottLobster 9y ago
The issue is that most people on social media aren't looking for enlightenment, they're looking for validation. If they don't find it from one source they'll likely seek out a more suitable one. The only one who can change a person's mind is that person, all the rest of us can do is encourage.
- sofal 9y ago
  If the people are participating in social media forums where debate happens or can happen (without it being considered rude), then they have not yet fully enclosed themselves into a comfortable echo chamber. If they aren't just there to troll, and seem to be engaging honestly, then debating with them is not a waste of time. Nobody is going to change their mind to match yours during one single online discussion (unless they come in wanting to have their minds changed and experience a lot of social pressure to admit to it, a la /r/changemyview). The audience matters, and even the person you're arguing with will likely remember the points you made, even if only to counter them, the next time they voice their opinion. The same goes for us. We learn more about their side and where they're coming from each time, and that counts for something.
77pt77 9y ago
> I have done a 180 on so many positions Care to give any examples and the reasons for your first position and subsequent change?
- sofal 9y ago
  I used to be a very conservative religious person. I had a whole package of beliefs that were ingrained into me from birth, and I grew into them and claimed them as my own. I thought that homosexuality was very damaging to society. I thought that human caused climate change was either fake or that there was nothing to worry about even if it were true. I did not believe that humans evolved, or at least I was somewhat conflicted about that. I thought that creationism belonged in schools. At one point in my early twenties I even listened to Rush Limbaugh and agreed with him (I cringe every time I remember that). I knew so many things, and I was happy to know them. I also liked to think analytically and enjoyed the intellectual stimulation I got from certain online forums (this one included). I liked how people would trade counterarguments and keep each other honest by pointing out bad thinking or logical fallacies. When someone would argue against something I believed in, I would argue back. From their perspective, my mind was not being changed and they were wasting their time, but from my perspective, the things they would call me out on stuck with me. I tried to avoid falling into logical fallacies and bad arguments because I knew I'd be called out on them. This restricted the ways I had to justify my beliefs, so that made it challenging. Then at church I noticed that nobody was being held to these standards at all, and fallacious reasoning was being let fly freely and constantly. I experienced a lot of cognitive dissonance during that point in my life which ultimately led to deeper investigation and study. I give a lot of credit to honest online debaters who pushed back on my ideas and kept me honest about the substance of my arguments.
johnvonneumann 9y ago
I feel that in many ways, there is a take-a-side mentality bred into all of us via social cues from a young age. Your football team, the city/country you are from, the education provider you attended. And as I've gotten older, I've become more and more convinced that in many instances, people view position switching as some sort of deadly sin. So they stay locked into their opinion. I have a mate who is pretty smart, but a lot of his ideas and beliefs come from his Dad, and as a result, you are no longer just breaking down his opinion, you are attacking the Father figure's. And over the course of our friendship, we have always had running debates on various things, and I was struck recently by his comment of "Well, you didn't always think that". The comment was made in a pretty smug way, like I had somehow lost the debate because at some point, realised that I was probably incorrect. I think this is the most damaging thing, like there is a certain level of pride taken in just taking A position. Not necessarily arriving at one through debate or critical thinking.

by sofal 9y ago

worldsayshi 9y ago

This needs to be said. I just which there was a better way to retroactively deliver that feedback. That could diminish defeatism.

scottLobster 9y ago

The issue is that most people on social media aren't looking for enlightenment, they're looking for validation. If they don't find it from one source they'll likely seek out a more suitable one. The only one who can change a person's mind is that person, all the rest of us can do is encourage.

sofal 9y ago
If the people are participating in social media forums where debate happens or can happen (without it being considered rude), then they have not yet fully enclosed themselves into a comfortable echo chamber. If they aren't just there to troll, and seem to be engaging honestly, then debating with them is not a waste of time. Nobody is going to change their mind to match yours during one single online discussion (unless they come in wanting to have their minds changed and experience a lot of social pressure to admit to it, a la /r/changemyview). The audience matters, and even the person you're arguing with will likely remember the points you made, even if only to counter them, the next time they voice their opinion. The same goes for us. We learn more about their side and where they're coming from each time, and that counts for something.

77pt77 9y ago

> I have done a 180 on so many positions Care to give any examples and the reasons for your first position and subsequent change?

sofal 9y ago
I used to be a very conservative religious person. I had a whole package of beliefs that were ingrained into me from birth, and I grew into them and claimed them as my own. I thought that homosexuality was very damaging to society. I thought that human caused climate change was either fake or that there was nothing to worry about even if it were true. I did not believe that humans evolved, or at least I was somewhat conflicted about that. I thought that creationism belonged in schools. At one point in my early twenties I even listened to Rush Limbaugh and agreed with him (I cringe every time I remember that). I knew so many things, and I was happy to know them. I also liked to think analytically and enjoyed the intellectual stimulation I got from certain online forums (this one included). I liked how people would trade counterarguments and keep each other honest by pointing out bad thinking or logical fallacies. When someone would argue against something I believed in, I would argue back. From their perspective, my mind was not being changed and they were wasting their time, but from my perspective, the things they would call me out on stuck with me. I tried to avoid falling into logical fallacies and bad arguments because I knew I'd be called out on them. This restricted the ways I had to justify my beliefs, so that made it challenging. Then at church I noticed that nobody was being held to these standards at all, and fallacious reasoning was being let fly freely and constantly. I experienced a lot of cognitive dissonance during that point in my life which ultimately led to deeper investigation and study. I give a lot of credit to honest online debaters who pushed back on my ideas and kept me honest about the substance of my arguments.

johnvonneumann 9y ago

I feel that in many ways, there is a take-a-side mentality bred into all of us via social cues from a young age. Your football team, the city/country you are from, the education provider you attended. And as I've gotten older, I've become more and more convinced that in many instances, people view position switching as some sort of deadly sin. So they stay locked into their opinion. I have a mate who is pretty smart, but a lot of his ideas and beliefs come from his Dad, and as a result, you are no longer just breaking down his opinion, you are attacking the Father figure's. And over the course of our friendship, we have always had running debates on various things, and I was struck recently by his comment of "Well, you didn't always think that". The comment was made in a pretty smug way, like I had somehow lost the debate because at some point, realised that I was probably incorrect. I think this is the most damaging thing, like there is a certain level of pride taken in just taking A position. Not necessarily arriving at one through debate or critical thinking.