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Silicon Valley CEO Pleads ‘No Contest’ to Abusing His Wife
- Rotten194 10y agoWhy did you remove the last part of the title? ("and Is Offered a Deal for Less Than 30 Days in Jail")
- greenyoda 10y agoThat extra text would have exceeded the 80-character limit for HN article titles.
- najajomo 10y agoWife beating is considered acceptable in certain traditions, as long as you don't hit her in the face.
- smallgovt 10y agoMurdering people is considered acceptable by Islamic extremists, as long as they are non-believers.
- najajomo 10y ago> Murdering people is considered acceptable by Islamic extremists, as long as they are non-believers Silence, I kill you !!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBvfiCdk-jc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBvfiCdk-jc
- maerF0x0 10y agoPizza is considered acceptable in some gyms, as long as its keto friendly and covered in chicken breast.
- InitialLastName 10y agoMurdering people is considered acceptable by Christian extremists, as long as they seem to be [black/Muslim/Jewish/OBGYNs]
- sctb 10y agoWe absolutely don't need to spark the same religious flamewar over and over here, so please don't. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- aanm1988 10y agoThis is why we impose limits on what traditions can be practiced in our society.
- droom 10y agoIn some cultures it's considered a compliment to actually burp after your meal.
- mbrumlow 10y agoI first would like to say this is a horrible way to treat anybody and hope that Neha Rastogi gets all the support she needs to deal with this situation. That being said, does even the spousal abuse have to be related to software in Silicon Valley? Just listening to the video was so surreal. Lots of spouses fight over things but what a "bug" is or is not? It's just crazy that this is what came out of Silicon Valley.
- maerF0x0 10y agoCouples mostly fight over inane things. I only read 1/2 the article but it sounds like they're both quite sick. Him a seemingly sociopath (as many CEOs are) and her some kind of dependence disorder (codependence?) . Why in the world would she bail out someone who has abused her? They both need treatment.
- aanm1988 10y agoNo, she needs help. He needs to get tossed in jail.
- maerF0x0 10y agoJail will be part of his recovery (as long as he isnt badly beaten or raped). But I also think he deserves mental health care. Counseling or something.
- valuearb 10y agoBeaten or raped? He got 30 days in Silicon Valley jail not prison. He will likely get put in special custody with benefits, and probably get out early, maybe within a week or two. He will learn nothing from this, and is likely even angrier at his wife. He will get joint custody and find ways to torture her emotionally.
- maerF0x0 10y ago30 days is part of a bigger picture. You sound very angry about this situation.
- mvpu 10y agoThe Santa Clara District Attorney simply doesn't get it. I saw a domestic violence case first hand - the husband was arrested, got out on bail, but the DA never filed charges and simply dropped the case because it didn't involve severe damage. For the DA to file charges, they'd have to see a hand or leg broken badly. What they don't understand is the enormous mental pain these women, especially from Asian countries, go through. It's just sad.
- smallgovt 10y agoReading this made me want to throw up. Absolutely horrible. But then while listening to the video, I realized the recording sounded a lot like what I would hear when my parents beat my siblings/myself as kids for doing something wrong. This made me wonder: Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse? Why does such a large section of society think it's OK to hit your kids and not your spouse? Curious to hear what other people think.
- lsc 10y agoRegardless of your stance on corporal punishment, a parent is in a position of authority over, and responsible for training their children. The relationship between a parent and child is ideally a loving relationship, but it is not a relationship of equals. The parent, culturally and legally, is expected to make decisions in the child's best interest, even, sometimes, when the child disagrees. A child is not an adult. The relationship to a spouse is fundamentally different. In this country, marriage is a union of two equals. You do not give up the legal autonomy granted to you at 18 just because you got married. Most people would find it weird or creepy to find you were using other kinds of punishment on your spouse, even punishments that are uncontroversial when used on children, just because this implies that you are not respecting your spouse as an equal, but instead treating him or her as a child.
- smallgovt 10y agoPlaying devil's advocate, there are a number of real world examples of relationships with power, authority, equality differentials where we'd still not be comfortable with corporal punishment. For example, teacher/student, employee/boss. After thinking about it more, one rationalization is that we assume it's for the kids' greater good and kids don't know what's best for them while adults do. Of course, one must believe corporal punishment is an effective way to train behavior and the purpose when used is truly to improve the kid's well being.
- lsc 10y agoMy only point is that there shouldn't be an authority difference in a spousal relationship.
- greenyoda 10y agoDiscussion from yesterday: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14136167 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14136167
- csense 10y agoWhy the heck does this guy think abuse is OK? I mean, what possible thought process could he have, that ends with "...and that's why I should hit my wife today!" I'm not trying to justify the guy's actions. I'm just trying to figure out how he justifies his actions to himself. I want to gain insight into why this kind of thing happens, maybe that will give some clues about how to detect or prevent it.
- anotheryou 10y agoHow is the threatened murder not discussed in court?
- wieghant 10y agoDisgusting. People defending his actions with culture and religion are even more so.
- taloft 9y agoThe link is malware to my iPhone. Locks me into a full screen ad for winning something, then breaks the back button. Had to close the page.