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>have a hard time dating people who have a less comfortable situation than themselves. This may be evolutionary wired, but forget about it. That mental model h
by abandonliberty 10y ago
>have a hard time dating people who have a less comfortable situation than themselves.
This may be evolutionary wired, but forget about it. That mental model has no potential to help.
Effective relationships must provide value to both parties.
So demonstrate value. "Comfortable situation" is one shortcut to measure value. "Great father", "good listener", "considerate", "sane", "stable" are all incredibly valuable and crazy hard to measure.
The dirty truth: Many men don't provide value.
- jokoon 10y agoWell, a man with a less comfortable situation might have some self esteem issue that can potentially cause trouble in a relationship. So it is not a direct cause, but it can be a cause. > "Great father", "good listener", "considerate", "sane", "stable" are all incredibly valuable and crazy hard to measure. Well only women can really evaluate and "feel" those qualities.