I'm curious if anyone here has ever had kids in a (good, well run) cohousing community. A major reason young kids are so stressful is they're relying on parent

I'm curious if anyone here has ever had kids in a (good, well run) cohousing community. A major reason young kids are so stressful is they're relying on parents for play and social stimulation when they need more unstructured time with other kids. This is not the preferred way for either parent or child. Parents get fatigued entertaining three and four year olds because they are not three, and kids will choose other kids over parents most of the time if it's available. The problem with parks and play spaces is that the kids don't know each other. Family life is segregated so kids don't get to form bonds.