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You should've laughed to divert any suspicions. When someone makes a racist joke about me I chuckle and wait for my turn. Because I don't want to watch what I a

by koder2016 10y ago

You should've laughed to divert any suspicions. When someone makes a racist joke about me I chuckle and wait for my turn. Because I don't want to watch what I am saying all the time. He did not make an attack, he lowered his shield. And then suffered the consequences.

acaciapalm 10y ago
Believe me, it really wasn't funny... Like, it was violent and creepy and Elliot Rodgers-esque. I would have looked like a psycho to the other co workers if I laughed. As it stands, the offending co worker looked like a psycho. (He got fired. But I was a bit scared for my safety.)
- dota_fanatic 10y ago
  If it was violent, creepy, and reminiscent of a mass-murderer comment directed towards women, I would think it a good thing that people would suspect you were the one to stick up for women, seeing as you had the most to fear from such a hateful person. It's a good thing that at least one person reported them, since the unfortunate human norm is for a bystander to ignore those in need of help / defense / solidarity. If "everyone assumed it was you" and then gave you "the side-eye" for the consequences of this nasty person's comment's getting reported, fired, then this seems like clear signal that that workplace was no good in that way and it's time to find friendlier waters. How do you think this would have gone differently had there been two more female employees? The hateful one would have kept a tighter lid on their true personality? The side-eye would have been more them vs us, or again, left thought but not expressed? Anyways, lack of diversity sucks.
  - acaciapalm 10y ago
    Not everyone was there for the comment and HR did not say what the comment was or who said it. For 90% of my co workers, it was just "we all have sensitivity training for sexist comment reported to HR and only one woman, soooo..."
  - kkirsche 10y ago
    Lack of diversity doesn't suck assuming the company hired the best talent for the role. Diversity for the sake of diversity is horrible and makes you dislike the people for just being there
vehementi 10y ago
Won't somebody think of the poor racists?

acaciapalm 10y ago

Believe me, it really wasn't funny... Like, it was violent and creepy and Elliot Rodgers-esque. I would have looked like a psycho to the other co workers if I laughed. As it stands, the offending co worker looked like a psycho. (He got fired. But I was a bit scared for my safety.)

dota_fanatic 10y ago
If it was violent, creepy, and reminiscent of a mass-murderer comment directed towards women, I would think it a good thing that people would suspect you were the one to stick up for women, seeing as you had the most to fear from such a hateful person. It's a good thing that at least one person reported them, since the unfortunate human norm is for a bystander to ignore those in need of help / defense / solidarity. If "everyone assumed it was you" and then gave you "the side-eye" for the consequences of this nasty person's comment's getting reported, fired, then this seems like clear signal that that workplace was no good in that way and it's time to find friendlier waters. How do you think this would have gone differently had there been two more female employees? The hateful one would have kept a tighter lid on their true personality? The side-eye would have been more them vs us, or again, left thought but not expressed? Anyways, lack of diversity sucks.
- acaciapalm 10y ago
  Not everyone was there for the comment and HR did not say what the comment was or who said it. For 90% of my co workers, it was just "we all have sensitivity training for sexist comment reported to HR and only one woman, soooo..."
- kkirsche 10y ago
  Lack of diversity doesn't suck assuming the company hired the best talent for the role. Diversity for the sake of diversity is horrible and makes you dislike the people for just being there

vehementi 10y ago

Won't somebody think of the poor racists?