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I hate gambling but observing some recent changes in my behaviour this sentence strike a chord: > The high is in expecting an outcome, desiring it, imagining i
by ajankovic 10y ago
I hate gambling but observing some recent changes in my behaviour this sentence strike a chord:
> The high is in expecting an outcome, desiring it, imagining it, not in its fulfillment.
I am staring at unfinished side projects of mine and they are staring back at me.
- M_Grey 10y agoIt also explains everyone you've met who binge eats and then regrets it, and a lot of other behaviors.
- turc1656 10y agoYes, exactly! I am experiencing the same issue. But, I am happy to say I've made significant headway on one project recently. Didn't get the result I wanted, so it's back to the drawing board (sigh).
- manaskarekar 10y ago"After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but is often true.” -- Spock https://youtu.be/-wtYGZt7aI4 https://youtu.be/-wtYGZt7aI4
- encoderer 10y ago> Expectation is the purest, most reliable form of pleasure - Flaubert (From memory, paraphrasing)
- Jun8 10y agoYour memory is good but I think that was the form given in a Dawson's Creek episode (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0555133/quotes http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0555133/quotes). The one that Goodreads and other sites attribute to Flaubert is: "Pleasure is found first in anticipation, later in memory." I couldn't find a source for this but I think rather than Flaubert this is from Julian Barnes's book Flaubert's Parrot, which has: “Remember the botched brothel-visit in L’Education sentimentale and remember its lesson. Do not participate: happiness lies in the imagination, not the act. Pleasure is found first in anticipation, later in memory.” (https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/1414912-flaubert-s-parrot https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/1414912-flaubert-s-par...). This quote does not appear in the full text of that book, though (https://archive.org/stream/sentimentaleduca00flauiala/sentimentaleduca00flauiala_djvu.txt https://archive.org/stream/sentimentaleduca00flauiala/sentim...). I totally agree with the sentiment expressed, of course. The real lover not being as beautiful or desirable as the imagined version is a common motif esp. in Middle Eastern literature.
- encoderer 10y agobahaha. I don't remember the show well but I was a teenager in the 90s and definitely watched it. I do, however, remember selectively reading the book later in school so I must have mis-appropriated that memory.
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- MichaelApproved 10y agoJared Tendler[1] is a poker coach and has a great line that stuck with me, beyond my poker playing. It goes something like this Visualizing your win is important to help you stay focused on a goal but equality important is not to get carried away with the visualization. If you imagine yourself winning too often, you'll feel like you already achieved that goal and won't be as motivated to follow through. After-all, what's the point in doing the extra work, if you already think you've won? He's got a lot of other really good insights. If you're a poker player, I highly recommend his audio books which are available on audible. [1] http://jaredtendlerpoker.com/tmgp1and2/ http://jaredtendlerpoker.com/tmgp1and2/
- kaffeemitsahne 10y agoReminds me of that bit about people being less likely to actually follow through with their plans if they've already told people about what they're going to do, versus keeping it silent.
- nzjrs 10y agoWait what?! I've heard literally the opposite advice - the idea being people don't like to be made a liar of, so publicly promising you will do something makes you more inclined to do it
- throwanem 10y agoThere's a difference between making someone a promise, and just talking about something you intend to do.
- markdown 10y agoRelevant 3min TED Talk by Sivers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHopJHSlVo4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHopJHSlVo4
- tdkl 10y agoBoth mind hacks work or fail, depending on the person and their habits.
- iregina 10y agoI am staring at Facebook and it is staring back at me.
- throwanem 10y agoFacebook is always staring at you.
- rogerdpack 10y agoUnfortunately I'm the same way, side projects really addict me, and in a bad way. I'm quite happy while doing them (LOL) but then a few days afterward I'm a grumpy terrible human being while withdrawing. Any advice out there for me? :)
- elmigranto 10y agoI'll let you work on mine :) Jokes aside, though, did I read it right that you're saying you don't have enough side projects? Start a bigger one then.
- rogerdpack 10y agoNo too many, and if I work on any on of them I get grumpy and addicted :|
- failrate 10y agoAre you completing any of them? If not, delete all of them. This will prevent cognitive load.
- voidz 10y agoIndeed; for me this applies to tobacco!
- mike_ivanov 10y agoI think that's actually. Let them sit there for a while and wait for their turn. I am yet to have a single unfinished side project that I wouldn't be recycling a few years later into something related to my day job. And yes - it starts with high expectations and dreaming about the outcome, sketching the thing, engineering parts of it - and when it's almost there, then I lose interest. But by that time the hardest part - figuring out how - is done. And it's absolutely addictive.
- amelius 10y agoRunning a startup is also somewhat like being a gambling addict. And the house is run by VCs (who wisely spread their money).
- idrios 10y agoA lot like being a gambling addict. It really is gambling your time and energy. The difference is that at a Casino, all games are rigged so that your expected value over large number of iterations in any game is that you'll lose money. In a startup, the expected value over investing a lot of time and energy is that you'll gain money in the end. VCs are giving you money to keep gambling, and asking you to give them a cut of your winnings. The house is run by the market.