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The key paragraph, in my opinion: "One response to marital infidelity is divorce. But divorce can be costly, especially for women. Aside from the social stigma

• chii 10y ago
  it's interesting that in the west, divorce usually means the women gets half the networth of the man, in which case, it's the man who normally don't want to divorce.
  • ajmurmann 10y ago
    Unless the wife has higher income in which case the husband benefits. Or maybe they even earn similar incomes...
    • dpark 10y ago
      Yeah. I'm not sure what decade these people are living in. If you're worried about marriage because you think your wife is going to divorce you and take half your money, you could choose a spouse with her own source of good income.
      • lectrick 10y ago
        That limits your choices quite a bit. For example there are a large number of attractive women with terrible incomes and/or no savings, for which "scoring a successful man" may be a "valid" mating strategy
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        • intrasight 10y ago
          Right. So as has been true forever and a day, men can either think with their head or with their penis.
          • srtjstjsj 10y ago
            You mean, use their head for their wallet or their penis.
        • dpark 10y ago
          If you select someone as your mate who is mostly interested in you for your money, then you should expect that they will take a big chunk of your money if you divorce. I don't mean this in a "you deserve it" kind of way, but in a "this is the relationship you agreed to" way. If your mate is with you for your money and you are with them for their youth and looks, then assuming you stay with them long enough that after a divorce much of their youth and good looks are gone, why shouldn't they get some of your money? You got their most valuable assets.
          • DefaultUserHN 10y ago
            You're assuming that only gold diggers will take half your money when they divorce you. But that's not true. Under United States laws, all women will take half your money when they divorce you. Doesn't matter that they're gold diggers or not. And also, most women marries up (marry a guy who makes more than her), not down.
            • dpark 10y ago
              I'm not assuming anything. If you are worried about your spouse taking "your money", then don't marry someone who isn't bringing in a similar amount of money. It's not complex. This whining about women taking "your money" in a divorce is absurd. Get a prenup or marry someone with as much or more money. If you marry someone with less money (i.e. someone "marrying up") then you are knowingly "marrying down". Don't whine about fairness. This isn't a problem with the courts being "unfair" so much as a problem with people being petty.
              • DefaultUserHN 10y ago
                I agree. She doesn't have to be a gold digger to take half your money because the laws still applies regardless of her gold-digging status. The proper way to handle this is to marry some who makes the same or more than you.
                • dpark 10y ago
  • lectrick 10y ago
    I actually think this biases mate selection (not necessarily in a good way) toward people of similar or slightly greater/lesser income
• belorn 10y ago
  "70% of women think that men should only get married after buying their own housing properties" according to a 2011 survey. The survey also shows "that about 80% of the single women interviewed think that it's reasonable for men to only consider a relationship if they receive a monthly income of above 4,000 yuan" (http://www.womenofchina.cn/html/womenofchina/report/136873-1.htm http://www.womenofchina.cn/html/womenofchina/report/136873-1...) Reducing that number to 0 percent and getting people to want income responsibility and property shared between man and wife in a 50/50 way would help towards making divorce outcomes equal.
  • gakada 10y ago
    It seems that marriages in capitalist societies are inherently unstable. If rights are equal, then women are incentivised to divorce to "cash in" the value of their husband. If the rights are unequal, then men are incentivised to divorce to "trade up" to a more attractive wife. It's only agrarian societies that manage to make husband and wife dependent enough on each other that divorce is a bad option for everybody.
    • dpark 10y ago
      > If rights are equal, then women are incentivised to divorce to "cash in" the value of their husband. This only applies if earning potential between women and men is wildly disparate. When women can and do earn as much as men, the "cashing in" factor largely goes away.
      • Godel_unicode 10y ago
        Source: http://info.legalzoom.com/happens-divorce-couples-earn-same-20858.html http://info.legalzoom.com/happens-divorce-couples-earn-same-...
      • arcticfox 10y ago
        I think this is a problem if the actual net worth is significantly different between partners, not earning potential.