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What are you afraid of [..] This is the question that you need to keep asking yourself. What are you affraid of? Once you've described it: is that fear reasona
by Confusion 17y ago
What are you afraid of [..]
This is the question that you need to keep asking yourself. What are you affraid of? Once you've described it: is that fear reasonable? If it isn't, where does it come from? When you feel the fear, go through this process and explain to yourself that it doesn't make sense and that it has roots in irrational expectations. Be very specific, describe distinct things you are affraid of and the ways in which you fear they could hurt you. I do this every time I find myself being reluctant to do something. Basically every time I feel I have to pick up the phone to get something done. Along the way, you discover interesting things about yourself and about others.
- pbhjpbhj 17y agoI suffer some shyness. Where it gets in the way most is telephone calls. Mostly I'm fine on the phone but sometimes I'll procrastinate so much, because I'm anxious about making a phone call, that it will impact my work or social life quite negatively. Unfortunately that stress works against the situation. My point however is that there is nothing rational in this it is like an occasional phobia. The fear doesn't come from anywhere, it just appears. It's possible that this anxiety is due to being chastised heavily for not taking phone messages well as a child.