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Easy to do, if you're rational that is

by majurg 10y ago

ux-app 10y ago
err... I don't know about easy, I'd go with hard, but doable
infinite8s 10y ago
And have the privilege of not suffering from other life stresses...
- r0s 10y ago
  Such as parenthood?
  - infinite8s 10y ago
    No, I meant stresses other than parenthood. When you have to work 2 jobs, have to decide whether to use your paycheck to pay overdue bills or buy groceries, and never get enough sleep, it's quite difficult to remain rational while your child is acting irrationally. The stresses of parenthood (never enough sleep, worrying if you are doing the right thing) just exacerbates those. After all, we aren't robots. Emotional state is a tough thing to override.
amalcon 10y ago
Which you're not, seeing as how you're human and all. It's certainly possible, and very much worth doing, but I wouldn't call it easy.
Sone7 10y ago
Spoken like someone who hasn't been there. If you have been there, it's amazing you didn't learn not to speak like that - is English not your first language?
ekianjo 10y ago
When your kids destroy your sleep pattern and cry most of the time when they are awake during the day, good luck staying rational and yourself. Everyone has limits and kids are very good at finding them.
- wincy 10y ago
  Kids don't destroy your sleep pattern unless you abuse them by going against millions of years of co-sleeping and throw them in a crib in a different room (doubling their risk of SIDS). In a year and a half we've had exactly one "troubled night" and that's because she had hand foot and mouth disease. Children cry because something is wrong. Sometimes that may be "I want to pull the cats tail but she's running away" but more often than not it's something that can be addressed by a parent. Love, attention, and affection has solved every bout of crying so far.
  - ekianjo 10y ago
    Are you suggesting there's only a single pattern of kids and that all kids follow your experience? Because I can tell you, it's not the case.
  - maxxxxx 10y ago
    I think you were lucky. My sister's kids were all different. One was extremely easy and the other one was very difficult the first few years. Same parents, same methods, different outcome. People are different,so are kids.

Easy to do, if you're rational that is

by majurg 10y ago

Easy to do, if you're rational that is

ux-app 10y ago

err... I don't know about easy, I'd go with hard, but doable

infinite8s 10y ago

And have the privilege of not suffering from other life stresses...

r0s 10y ago
Such as parenthood?
- infinite8s 10y ago
  No, I meant stresses other than parenthood. When you have to work 2 jobs, have to decide whether to use your paycheck to pay overdue bills or buy groceries, and never get enough sleep, it's quite difficult to remain rational while your child is acting irrationally. The stresses of parenthood (never enough sleep, worrying if you are doing the right thing) just exacerbates those. After all, we aren't robots. Emotional state is a tough thing to override.

amalcon 10y ago

Which you're not, seeing as how you're human and all. It's certainly possible, and very much worth doing, but I wouldn't call it easy.

Sone7 10y ago

Spoken like someone who hasn't been there. If you have been there, it's amazing you didn't learn not to speak like that - is English not your first language?

ekianjo 10y ago

When your kids destroy your sleep pattern and cry most of the time when they are awake during the day, good luck staying rational and yourself. Everyone has limits and kids are very good at finding them.

wincy 10y ago
Kids don't destroy your sleep pattern unless you abuse them by going against millions of years of co-sleeping and throw them in a crib in a different room (doubling their risk of SIDS). In a year and a half we've had exactly one "troubled night" and that's because she had hand foot and mouth disease. Children cry because something is wrong. Sometimes that may be "I want to pull the cats tail but she's running away" but more often than not it's something that can be addressed by a parent. Love, attention, and affection has solved every bout of crying so far.
- ekianjo 10y ago
  Are you suggesting there's only a single pattern of kids and that all kids follow your experience? Because I can tell you, it's not the case.
- maxxxxx 10y ago
  I think you were lucky. My sister's kids were all different. One was extremely easy and the other one was very difficult the first few years. Same parents, same methods, different outcome. People are different,so are kids.