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I can't explain why you're wrong about kids and self-interest. It's something you have to experience for yourself. You may have an epiphany about the 50th time
by terrywilcox 10y ago
I can't explain why you're wrong about kids and self-interest. It's something you have to experience for yourself.
You may have an epiphany about the 50th time you yell "watch out for that car". I swear she _wants_ me to have a heart attack.
- jes 10y agoI do have some experience with parenting. I have three children, in their 20s and 30s at this time. All are doing very well, and we are all on good terms with each other. With respect, I think our different views may be the result of a different understanding of what it means to truly be self-interested. In my view, it's nothing like being a greedy bastard who only cares about sacrificing other people to himself, being a manipulator, being miserly, etc.
- falsestprophet 10y ago"Good terms" is setting a pretty low bar for family.
- nostrebored 10y agoIs it, if the GP instilled the same values in his children? I hope that my children will hold me accountable for my actions and vice versa.
- jes 10y agoThank you for understanding this point. I do not want my children to love me because I'm their father, or because I took care of them (along with their mother) when they were growing up. I see it as my job, if I want a relationship with my children, to be bringing value to them in the here and now. Sure, we have good memories of the past, but good memories are not (in my view) a sufficient basis for an ongoing relationship. Even worse would be a sense of obligation on the part of my children towards me, simply because I'm their father. You summarized it well: "I hope my children will hold me accountable for my actions, and vice-versa."
- omarchowdhury 10y agoWhat was your relationship like with your parents?