In the society that we live in now you're right. And you can either see this as an inequality that's been socialized or as essential to the female sex -- equiva

In the society that we live in now you're right. And you can either see this as an inequality that's been socialized or as essential to the female sex -- equivalent to saying that girls are born caring more about housework. The fact of the matter is that being a stay at home parent is extremely isolating. Women who stay at home are significantly more likely to have mental problems [0][1] "Researchers also found that most of the women in the highly suicidal group held jobs before becoming mothers – a significant life changing experience where they left behind their working identity in a predictable and controlled environment where they felt competent, to the unpredictability of caring for a newborn. This dramatic change could have been enough to catapult them into severe post partum depression." [2] And there is also a disproportionate push for them to stay at home. The narrative around motherhood suggests that women who stay at home are better mothers. I stayed at home for a few months while my partner went back to work. It's something I would never do again. It's unbelievably isolating, stressful, and in many ways (especially in the early months) unrewarding. A way the world would be different would be we wouldn't have people making decisions against their own self interest due to societal pressure. You wouldn't receive polar opposite answers from women around other people and in one on one scenarios regarding their experiences as a SAHM. [0] http://www.gallup.com/poll/154685/stay-home-moms-report-depression-sadness-anger.aspx http://www.gallup.com/poll/154685/stay-home-moms-report-depr... [1] http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2011/12/working-moms.aspx http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2011/12/working-moms.... [2]https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/09/090903163854.htm https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/09/090903163854.h... off topic: bloom filters are my favorite data structure and I enjoyed reading your blog post :)