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> There is more to breast-feeding than milk. So are you suggesting my children didn't receive as much bonding, warmth, etc, because I fed them breastmilk inste

by wow_hn 10y ago

> There is more to breast-feeding than milk. So are you suggesting my children didn't receive as much bonding, warmth, etc, because I fed them breastmilk instead of my wife? If that's the case, they're growing up to be remarkably well-adjusted, happy, and (quite) intelligent children despite that supposed deficiency. It sounds like you've been exposed to a very certain, very traditional, kind of family situation. Please let me assure you that this is not the only way people raise successful families. Even breastmilk, while highly recommend when possible, isn't critical for a babies' well-being since it's not possible at all in many cases (mother's health/can't breastfeed, adoption, etc.). EDIT: Rate limited, my response to ps4fanboy: > The fact that you were able to take time off to care for your children suggests that you are most probably middle class or better Ironically, me taking off work to raise the kids brought us surprisingly close to the poverty line (wife's a school teacher). But we decided it was worth it, my wife wanted to return to work, and that I would be a great caregiver. But we're both highly educated, if that was somehow your suggestion. > this social standing in society is much more likely to be a contributing factor to childrens long term success than breast feeding Agreed, in general. So we both can agree that breast-feeding, while recommended, is not a critical factor in raising well-adjusted children.

ps4fanboy 10y ago
The fact that you were able to take time off to care for your children suggests that you are most probably middle class or better, this social standing in society is much more likely to be a contributing factor to childrens long term success than breast feeding.
bluecalm 10y ago
>>If that's the case, they're growing up to be remarkably well-adjusted, happy, and (quite) intelligent children despite that supposed deficiency. It's one of the factors. There are others which you are likely to take care of very well. As to breast-feeding and immune system: http://emph.oxfordjournals.org/content/2015/1/21.short http://emph.oxfordjournals.org/content/2015/1/21.short This requires contact between mother and child when breastfeeding for mother's body to produce compounds in milk in response to infection in a child. >>It sounds like you've been exposed to a very certain, very traditional, kind of family situation. Definitely not. I was raised in a very liberal family with mother having dominant personality. I am an atheists and I hold (and still do) very liberal views on most issues. My views on parenthood are shaped by my experiences and what I observe but obviously that is biased because of my environment and people I've met during my life. It's true that the happiest people with families I know are all at least a bit conservative when it comes to the role of mother and a father (even if very liberal otherwise).

by wow_hn 10y ago

ps4fanboy 10y ago

The fact that you were able to take time off to care for your children suggests that you are most probably middle class or better, this social standing in society is much more likely to be a contributing factor to childrens long term success than breast feeding.

bluecalm 10y ago

>>If that's the case, they're growing up to be remarkably well-adjusted, happy, and (quite) intelligent children despite that supposed deficiency. It's one of the factors. There are others which you are likely to take care of very well. As to breast-feeding and immune system: http://emph.oxfordjournals.org/content/2015/1/21.short http://emph.oxfordjournals.org/content/2015/1/21.short This requires contact between mother and child when breastfeeding for mother's body to produce compounds in milk in response to infection in a child. >>It sounds like you've been exposed to a very certain, very traditional, kind of family situation. Definitely not. I was raised in a very liberal family with mother having dominant personality. I am an atheists and I hold (and still do) very liberal views on most issues. My views on parenthood are shaped by my experiences and what I observe but obviously that is biased because of my environment and people I've met during my life. It's true that the happiest people with families I know are all at least a bit conservative when it comes to the role of mother and a father (even if very liberal otherwise).