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> 8) don't tower over people Could you elaborate on this? How do you resolve significant differences in height?

by mapmap 11y ago

JabavuAdams 11y ago
Sit down.
guyzero 11y ago
Stand back from them. In the immortal words of The Police, "don't stand so close to me." From 3 or 4 feet away most people realize I'm tall but when I stand directly next to them there's zero ability to make eye contact.
retbull 11y ago
Lean back slightly if you have to stand. Also look at someone face on but stand a little sideways and back. I am 6'4" and most people don't notice it until I end up standing over them accidentally, they suddenly comment "WOW you're really tall" and it actually surprises them because I work very hard at not being intimidating. Approaching from the side is good advice and so is making sure people notice other things first.
Swizec 11y ago
As others mentioned, distance helps. Another important bit is that if someone is sitting down, you should sit down next to them. If they're at their desk and there's no chair, squat or kneel.
ergothus 11y ago
I learned the best advice for approaching women only after I became happily married: Leave escape room. Whether it's a bar or a cubicle, a woman will (in general, according to my wife and other female friends) be aware of being pinned in. For those not thinking of it, it's perfectly natural to stand at the end of a bench seat or in a cubicle opening to talk, but this gives them no "escape" from the situation and increases tension. Simply standing to the side of that escape path makes the situation less tense. On the generally-male side of things, (drawing purely from my own experiences) I definitely notice when tall people are close to me, but if they stand a little further back I don't really notice their height.
borkabrak 11y ago
Honestly, just stand a little bit farther back. The main factor seems to be the angle at which each participant has to crane their necks in order to make eye contact.
colmvp 11y ago
Sit down or get them to sit down. E.g. NBA players who huddle around their coach

> 8) don't tower over people Could you elaborate on this? How do you resolve significant differences in height?

by mapmap 11y ago

> 8) don't tower over people Could you elaborate on this? How do you resolve significant differences in height?

JabavuAdams 11y ago

Sit down.

guyzero 11y ago

Stand back from them. In the immortal words of The Police, "don't stand so close to me." From 3 or 4 feet away most people realize I'm tall but when I stand directly next to them there's zero ability to make eye contact.

retbull 11y ago

Lean back slightly if you have to stand. Also look at someone face on but stand a little sideways and back. I am 6'4" and most people don't notice it until I end up standing over them accidentally, they suddenly comment "WOW you're really tall" and it actually surprises them because I work very hard at not being intimidating. Approaching from the side is good advice and so is making sure people notice other things first.

Swizec 11y ago

As others mentioned, distance helps. Another important bit is that if someone is sitting down, you should sit down next to them. If they're at their desk and there's no chair, squat or kneel.

ergothus 11y ago

I learned the best advice for approaching women only after I became happily married: Leave escape room. Whether it's a bar or a cubicle, a woman will (in general, according to my wife and other female friends) be aware of being pinned in. For those not thinking of it, it's perfectly natural to stand at the end of a bench seat or in a cubicle opening to talk, but this gives them no "escape" from the situation and increases tension. Simply standing to the side of that escape path makes the situation less tense. On the generally-male side of things, (drawing purely from my own experiences) I definitely notice when tall people are close to me, but if they stand a little further back I don't really notice their height.

borkabrak 11y ago

Honestly, just stand a little bit farther back. The main factor seems to be the angle at which each participant has to crane their necks in order to make eye contact.

colmvp 11y ago

Sit down or get them to sit down. E.g. NBA players who huddle around their coach