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Not sure why these people are getting so much attention lately. So you don't want children. Don't have children then. Who cares?
by nsxwolf 11y ago
Not sure why these people are getting so much attention lately. So you don't want children. Don't have children then. Who cares?
- Kristine1975 11y agoA lot of people care, as described in the article.
- doktrin 11y ago"Desperate" does seem like a bit strong of a word to describe a goal that is achievable with 0 effort.
- Kristine1975 11y agoNot zero: It is effort to argue with people that try to convince you to have children. And if they're e.g. family it's not always possible to avoid them.
- doktrin 11y ago"Desperate to not drink socially" "Desperate to not volunteer for military service" "Desperate to not eat meat" These are all things that to varying degrees (and varying by locale) run contrary to social expectations and will be met with external pressure. I still don't see anyone writing up the grandiose titles above with a straight face.
- Bedon292 11y agoI think the point of the article is that, while it should be achievable with 0 effort, in practice it is not. They are constantly having to justify themselves to others, which does take effort.
- dogma1138 11y agoConstantly having to justify yourself to others is called life, at least life in a society.
- Kristine1975 11y agoYou must live in a really judgemental environment :-(
- dogma1138 11y agoNo, I think you just too used to it that you don't see it. People judge you and you judge every other person on the planet based on every action they made, making and will make in their life.
- vectorjohn 11y agoBut they don't "have to" justify anything. They aren't forced to come up with any explanation, and "I just don't want to" is roughly 0 effort.
- to3m 11y agoMade you click, though! (You'd think the BBC needed advertising revenue, the way they carry on at times...)
- windlep 11y agoThere is a massive cultural pressure on women in America (and in many countries) to have children. Its in the movies, magazines, and comes up amazingly often in casual conversations. Regardless of what people say, it also comes with a social stigma in different cases. The point of this type of attention is to highlight the validity of making this choice in the hope that it might reduce the cultural pressure. I'm sure many men don't care, since the pressure is generally placed on women.
- Zikes 11y ago> I'm sure many men don't care, since the pressure is generally placed on women. As a man with a mother who asks when she'll get grandchildren at every opportunity, I'm going to have to disagree with you there.
- johnlampsont 11y agoWhy don't you ask her to mind her own business?
- dogma1138 11y agoAs an almost 30 with my s/o, her parents my parents asking the same, and my male friends who are 30 or over and dating getting fuzzed about kids on their 4th date I can also attest to that. While women have a cultural and physicall biological clock that ticks men aren't really in the clear. Society needs procreation to survive and women still haven't mastered asexual reproduction.
- Zikes 11y agoIt's funny how often it's brought up even before marriage. Also, men have a huge legal disincentive to have kids anymore. If the relationship doesn't work out, you're on the hook for ~18 years of child support payments, and that whole system is designed to make men out to be nothing but a paycheck.
- Vraxx 11y ago
- genug 11y ago> Who cares? Everyone trying to pressure these people into having children, apparently.
- nsxwolf 11y agoI doubt many of these people are experiencing real "pressure". They're just annoyed by other people's opinions about how they should live their lives. Be a grown up and tune it out.
- coldtea 11y ago>Who cares? Parents, co-workers, friends, discriminating employers, even random acquaintances...