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The big reason why Facebook depresses me is extreme narcissism.

by nommm-nommm 11y ago

lazzlazzlazz 11y ago
Unfollow those people and engage more closely with those who enrich your life.
- adamnemecek 11y ago
  Facebook is kind of a bad medium for that as it's not very private. And if you are going to have a 1-on-1 convo with some people, you might as well use IM.
  - lazzlazzlazz 11y ago
    Messenger is actually my primary use-case for Facebook. Talking one-on-one, contextualized by whatever each other are doing publically, is a great way to engage with someone meaningfully. There's always some fodder to initialize a conversation.
- nommm-nommm 11y ago
  I have a core group of about 6 people one facebook I care about. Unfortunately some of them are very narcissistic online and one baits with political bullshit. All are very pleasant to hang out with in real life. None do that kind of shit in real life. The internet can bring out the worst in people. I basically go on there once a week or once every two weeks to catch up on the "news" or if I get a message from someone (usually extended family, I have a lot) or an event invite. Unfortunately the narcissism is prominent because its "like" and "comment" bait. :| You could say these people aren't really my friends but, whatever, they like to use facebook to announce things (new job) because its easier than messaging everyone directly. Its also nice to get event invites from people you don't know very well who may otherwise not invite you because they don't know your phone number. Those are opportunities to make new friends. The barrier to getting to know someone better is low. That's nice. Over the years we've spread out geographically so I can't see them face to face very often but I do as much as I can. (every few months) Its easy to say only engage people who "enrich your life" in all aspects of it and are 100% perfect but humans are not perfect and facebook caters to a deep human need for attention/group acceptance. I also believe that surrounding yourself with people exactly like you in every way isn't very healthy. There's a lot of people that I don't like at all and I avoid if possible but for the people I do like I tolerate the differences we may have. I don't have a use for pages or whatever they call them or anything like that. I could get rid of my facebook but its alright for the amount I use but I couldn't stand being on that shit every day.
unclebucknasty 11y ago
What, you don't like an unlimited stream of posed, duck-lipped selfies?
467568985476 11y ago
I think that might be an issue with your friends, not Facebook. I improved my facebook by liking the pages of a bunch of cute animals. Now it's basically an instant messaging client that comes with a stream of puppies and kittens. I almost never see humans unless I go to their pages intentionally!
- anonbanker 11y ago
  this might be the best solution, if just for one's mental health.
FussyZeus 11y ago
Then you might want to leave the entire Internet, it's pretty much the coin of the realm (unfortunately)...
hliyan 11y ago
For me, it was the extreme stupidity -- anti-vaccination activism, anti-science/pro-pseudo-science, serial sharing of hoaxes, intolerance and blithe support for indefensible political positions in general.
godgod 11y ago
It's created a world of self important people.

The big reason why Facebook depresses me is extreme narcissism.

lazzlazzlazz 11y ago

Unfollow those people and engage more closely with those who enrich your life.

adamnemecek 11y ago
Facebook is kind of a bad medium for that as it's not very private. And if you are going to have a 1-on-1 convo with some people, you might as well use IM.
- lazzlazzlazz 11y ago
  Messenger is actually my primary use-case for Facebook. Talking one-on-one, contextualized by whatever each other are doing publically, is a great way to engage with someone meaningfully. There's always some fodder to initialize a conversation.
nommm-nommm 11y ago
I have a core group of about 6 people one facebook I care about. Unfortunately some of them are very narcissistic online and one baits with political bullshit. All are very pleasant to hang out with in real life. None do that kind of shit in real life. The internet can bring out the worst in people. I basically go on there once a week or once every two weeks to catch up on the "news" or if I get a message from someone (usually extended family, I have a lot) or an event invite. Unfortunately the narcissism is prominent because its "like" and "comment" bait. :| You could say these people aren't really my friends but, whatever, they like to use facebook to announce things (new job) because its easier than messaging everyone directly. Its also nice to get event invites from people you don't know very well who may otherwise not invite you because they don't know your phone number. Those are opportunities to make new friends. The barrier to getting to know someone better is low. That's nice. Over the years we've spread out geographically so I can't see them face to face very often but I do as much as I can. (every few months) Its easy to say only engage people who "enrich your life" in all aspects of it and are 100% perfect but humans are not perfect and facebook caters to a deep human need for attention/group acceptance. I also believe that surrounding yourself with people exactly like you in every way isn't very healthy. There's a lot of people that I don't like at all and I avoid if possible but for the people I do like I tolerate the differences we may have. I don't have a use for pages or whatever they call them or anything like that. I could get rid of my facebook but its alright for the amount I use but I couldn't stand being on that shit every day.

unclebucknasty 11y ago

What, you don't like an unlimited stream of posed, duck-lipped selfies?

467568985476 11y ago

I think that might be an issue with your friends, not Facebook. I improved my facebook by liking the pages of a bunch of cute animals. Now it's basically an instant messaging client that comes with a stream of puppies and kittens. I almost never see humans unless I go to their pages intentionally!

anonbanker 11y ago
this might be the best solution, if just for one's mental health.

FussyZeus 11y ago

Then you might want to leave the entire Internet, it's pretty much the coin of the realm (unfortunately)...

hliyan 11y ago

For me, it was the extreme stupidity -- anti-vaccination activism, anti-science/pro-pseudo-science, serial sharing of hoaxes, intolerance and blithe support for indefensible political positions in general.

godgod 11y ago

It's created a world of self important people.