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I have a problem almost like that, not as severe though. I was born in Brazil, and I am mixed race (about 2/3 mediterranean european and 1/3 black, with a tiny

by speeder 11y ago

I have a problem almost like that, not as severe though. I was born in Brazil, and I am mixed race (about 2/3 mediterranean european and 1/3 black, with a tiny bit of native american somewhere in my black ancestry) No group of people consider me one of them. And I don't think of myself as truly brazillian either, I don't like things most brazillians like, and I don't do things that most brazillians do, and I don't feel physical attraction for the average brazillian either. It kinda suck, to have no nation, despite having a legal citizenship.

aphexairlines 11y ago
That sounds like it's nowhere close. Choosing to not self-identify with one's country of birth or naturalization is very different from the fear of rejection discussed above.
- speeder 11y ago
  It is not just fear of rejection, I actually got rejected. Example: My parents live in a neighbourhood where most people are mixed race, but heavily black (ie: people have a obvious brown skin, and have facial features and bone structure of black people). More than once when walking on the street, I had people follow me with weapons or dogs, and one time when I was buying coca-cola in a bar on the neighbourhood, some people playing snooker stopped playing, made a circle around me, and said in a threatening tone that I was "not from here", I then pointed them my house (it was distant, but visible), then they left me alone. Similarly, when I am visiting white-heavy areas, specially if people are slavs/nordic (russian, swedish, etc...) they also treat me as an outsider, for example they prefer to talk to other white people. Or when I am with my uncle (that is more dark skinned) in my grandpa car (he has a expensive car for brazillian standards, a Toyota Corolla), police stop us, thinking we are thieves or thugs.
e12e 11y ago
Well, I consider you one of us. A person. A flag might be something to die for, but a culture is something to live for. > I don't feel physical attraction for the average brazillian either. Well, maybe you are not one of us after all ;-) Then again, who feels attracted to average people? Don't we most often feel attracted to those that in some way stand out?
rangibaby 11y ago
Being mixed race myself, I faced a similar problem; too white for brown people, too brown for white people. The only thing you can really do is to learn to love yourself, because that's one thing you can't change.

by speeder 11y ago

aphexairlines 11y ago

That sounds like it's nowhere close. Choosing to not self-identify with one's country of birth or naturalization is very different from the fear of rejection discussed above.

speeder 11y ago
It is not just fear of rejection, I actually got rejected. Example: My parents live in a neighbourhood where most people are mixed race, but heavily black (ie: people have a obvious brown skin, and have facial features and bone structure of black people). More than once when walking on the street, I had people follow me with weapons or dogs, and one time when I was buying coca-cola in a bar on the neighbourhood, some people playing snooker stopped playing, made a circle around me, and said in a threatening tone that I was "not from here", I then pointed them my house (it was distant, but visible), then they left me alone. Similarly, when I am visiting white-heavy areas, specially if people are slavs/nordic (russian, swedish, etc...) they also treat me as an outsider, for example they prefer to talk to other white people. Or when I am with my uncle (that is more dark skinned) in my grandpa car (he has a expensive car for brazillian standards, a Toyota Corolla), police stop us, thinking we are thieves or thugs.

e12e 11y ago

Well, I consider you one of us. A person. A flag might be something to die for, but a culture is something to live for. > I don't feel physical attraction for the average brazillian either. Well, maybe you are not one of us after all ;-) Then again, who feels attracted to average people? Don't we most often feel attracted to those that in some way stand out?

rangibaby 11y ago

Being mixed race myself, I faced a similar problem; too white for brown people, too brown for white people. The only thing you can really do is to learn to love yourself, because that's one thing you can't change.