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I don't doubt those factors are intertwined, but I think it's a disservice to the human conscience to declare it unfixable except by somehow overloading our att
by dasil003 11y ago
I don't doubt those factors are intertwined, but I think it's a disservice to the human conscience to declare it unfixable except by somehow overloading our attention. Actually the answer is remarkably simple though obviously not easy: Stop pinning your self-actualization on your kids and recognize your role to help them discover their own personhood. There's only a short window where you know better than them anyway, so focus on preparing them to make their own decisions.
- bpodgursky 11y agoSo I'm not discounting that that's healthier from a personal perspective, but I doubt it's a realistic change across a population. I guess I'm mainly trying to say, I don't think this overparenting trend is society collectively going insane, it's a natural consequence of a different change, that of family size. So I suspect if you took a bunch of parents from 1900 and dropped them in 2015 with smaller families, you'd get roughly the same outcome.
- dasil003 11y agoThe average parents in 1900 spent most of their time on manual labor, if I had to guess I'd say that had a larger impact on obsessing over their children than the number.