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by sridca 11y ago
If you, for example, ever been madly in love with a person to the point of obsessing about them, and feeling 'heart ache' over their absence ... if you have ever had to mourn the death of a loved one, or their parting away ... pay
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by sridca 11y ago
> Introspection is good. But what introspective observation led you to conclude that love = "a second-rate life" and "pathetic"? If you arrived at this conclusion by "paying attention to your own feelings",
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> You don't understand. You're actually stuck. You can't see it because you're stuck. As it is not possible to be "stuck" on language (which is but a tool) unless one has an emotional hold, and as you are
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> I see you already have a lot of responses, Yes, and it is quite evident that people are reluctant to question love. > but personally, I am by default suspicious/hesitent of indulging in love, yet I regret most of the times I ha
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by sridca 11y ago
Although humans are diverse in regards to lifestyle preferences - deep down we are one and the same (living the human condition) where love and, its opposite, hate (and all the concomitant superficial beliefs/ identities/ feelings
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Ok. > grab complete control over their emotions and keep them in check This is what is wrong with the concept of Vulcans (when applied to human goals). Controlling emotions and keeping them in check (which is what most healthy normal hum
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> Looking up love in the dictionary is useless. Establishing the agreed-upon definition for words used in communication is a sensible thing. Otherwise everybody is free to interpret things however they want (such as my correspondent, jMy
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> You're dismissing out of hand the best resource we have to living better lives - the accrued experience of our older generations. That just seems foolish to me. Except I'm not talking about "living better lives." Th
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> Which is why sincerity is essential. True, but you don't get to turn back time and choose a different option if the answer you pick is wrong, no matter how sincere you are. Perhaps there has been a misunderstanding. Questioning lo
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I'm not asking to talk about love, or philosophize about love, or arrive at logical arguments. Not at all. Questioning love = paying attention to your own feelings, and questioning their validity. Why do children seem to be having inno
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I have childhood memories of playing with fellow children and immensely enjoying it. And it is not uncommon to experience similar level of fun in adulthood either (this is far from being doing small-talks). None of this required trust or lo
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> My partner cKaye and I are both part of Python and we've been considering these questions a lot lately. It is great to have a partner that contemplates these matters! > In short: I don't think it's reasonable to treat
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> Feel free to question it -- but also realize that you may come up with the wrong answers. Which is why sincerity is essential. > I think it's wise (in most case) to defer to older generations when stuck with serious questions l
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by sridca 11y ago
I'd encourage you to question further. Questioning love is not the same as blaming it. There is no right or wrong in the realm of animalistic feelings; no matter how much of a good perception/expectation you have of the underlying
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Neither is love stable, as this very post shows. > There are probably many many authors who can wax poetic about this stuff better than me though, so I'll stop now. Yes ... all those sad love songs come to my mind. Why do we cling t
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by sridca 11y ago
All I'm asking is: why are we reluctant to question it? Just question it. Not rationalize or control it (you can't, as the deeper feelings are way too powerful). Decades ago it was considered normal to kill and get killed in a due
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By polarizing your options -- making the "software" feeling of love as factual as the "hardware" bodily part, and equating the absence of love to an imagined sci-fi notion (an apparently emotionless being) -- you have ef
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by sridca 11y ago
Is love worth it? Interacting with people, playing with children, etc. can be enjoyable activities. Not saying that we should withdraw from it, but as intelligent people can we take a step back and question love itself, especially as it c
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by sridca 11y ago
> What should I do? I had thought about this topic. See my past comments: - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10372461 - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10372527 - https://news.ycombin
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> The OP sought to put [...] What the OP sought to put -- via conveying it in written words -- is the notion that it (as in, achieving equity and parity between people) would be far more productive if people looked at these issues as gro
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> It’s worth noting that in my experience, the drivers who most blatantly refused me service have never been white. [...] 84 percent of New York City cab drivers are immigrants (the vast majority are “of colour”) This doesn't come a
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Provided it is done in equitable (no exploitation) and safe manner I would be in favour of prostitution being legalized, especially as the world becomes ever more individualized. For the worker (mostly women) this is easy work, easy money.
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Interesting article, but: > Indian users have been called, among other things, “unbelievably pretentious” and “narcissistic.” Indian users commenting on online forums -- regardless of their educational status or intelligence -- are no mo
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by sridca 11y ago
Not crying is merely a symptom of a larger problem of hiding one's feelings, much less talk about it. It is more important to be aware of the ongoing feelings and understand their operation (self-awareness leads to change). Moreo
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I totally agree but with one caveat. See the answer to the question "All this data is from a dating site. What does that have to do with my life?" from your link.
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I think you did not understand the full import of my comment. So let me clarify. Your ask is for a society where every person is "needed and wanted". In other words, every person's (social) desires/ needs/ wants are
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People rarely acknowledge that a significant portion of their identity is a result of social conditioning (or indoctrination as you bluntly put it in another comment). The act of seeking of approval, in particular, is the persistently amorp
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> We need a society where every person is needed and wanted. I'd rather live in a society where every person was self-sufficiently mirthful, with people-interaction being little more than the cherry on top of sundae. This is what in
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> I never understood this stigma about hermits/social isolation in western societies. In the east, it's much more accepted. In east it is much more accepted? Where exactly in the east? At least from where I come from (southern
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I understand your point of view. From a pure job security point of view, withdrawing from women unless necessary is simply being sensible and and little more than an intelligent act of minimizing risk. However when job security is taken out

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