socialismisok

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by socialismisok 4y ago
What if you have a beard, male pattern baldness, no breasts, and a name like "Jeremy"? Your position is too reductive.
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Trans people face brutal violence, social stigma, workplace discrimination, homelessness, and healthcare systems not knowing how to provide care at a rate that far exceeds other groups. It's not just "bored people", and I sug
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I'm responding specifically to: "No one here is unaware that people use these terms in new ways. Likewise they are not denying the usage." Other places in this post people absolutely do deny the usage.
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Well, she's both a pregnant person and a pregnant woman. I don't believe I've ever said you couldn't choose the words you prefer to use for yourself. The most I'd say is, "here is the reasoning for why this mig
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by socialismisok 4y ago
No, I disagree that people understand there are two definitions in common use. The parent said that no one disagrees that people use the word in that way. I'd argue that several people in this thread have done so implicitly or explic
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I suspect that what happens is that folks like me tend to get very tired. I'm happy to have good faith discussions all day, but in places like HN it can be difficult to maintain a conversation with all the anger directed at me. Inevita
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by socialismisok 4y ago
If only it were so simple. We make adjustments for people with all manner of neuroatypical behaviors. While it may feel like we should be able to just "fix" a mental health issue, sometimes it's not so simple. I'd prefer
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I've comported myself quite well in this thread, and elsewhere. Please don't generalize about people because they hold different opinions than you. Just because someone is a socialist does not make them a cudgel wielding censor, j
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Note that .13% was not what I rounded up. That .13% is a subset of people who are gender minorities (eg trans or non-binary) and there are several academic estimates that put the number higher than 1%. My intuition, reading through the stud
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I'm non binary. When people use the correct pronouns, understand that I prefer a gender neutral restroom, and ensure that I'm represented in surveys, it helps me feel included. This allyship has a material, positive benefit on my
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Some folks who identify as women might not identify as female. This might be true even for cisgender women in rare cases. An infertile XY person may be born with female genitalia in rare cases, and be raised as a woman only to discover late
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by socialismisok 4y ago
It's disappointing to see you downvoted. You've brought sources from across history that are absolutely reasonable and well applied to the topic.
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Tens or hundreds of millions of people are trans or non-binary. While I agree that there are two primary clusters, I strongly object to the idea that so many lives are of no significance.
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Do you believe that's what I'm doing? Are my comments "exceptionally aggressive"? I'd like to think I'm rather the opposite - firm in my convictions but willing to walk anyone through my reasoning. You may not
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Of course, you are correct that this usage implies gender varies based on location, culture, context, time, etc. In fact, this is why it's so useful to have a term for the idea that what's "feminine" in Saudi Arabia is n
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I disagree, plenty of people have stated quite the opposite - that there exists one definition only and the other definitions are incorrect. I believe language is descriptive, and therefore definitions follow usage. If there exists new usag
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by socialismisok 4y ago
True, and good catch.
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Probably true!
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I want to use language that makes trans parents feel included. That's it. I'd encourage others to use that language and explain my reasoning (which is what I did above.) If they don't, I'm bummed out but I move on. I m
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I'm curious why you feel this way. If we could find ways to make people with social anxiety more comfortable, why shouldn't we try to accommodate them?
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by socialismisok 4y ago
It's not something that can be rationally explained. Sorta like trying to explain why you don't like a taste. The mix of cultural history and labeling myself by entering a "men's" space is ... stressful. Same with p
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by socialismisok 4y ago
No. Being trans marks you for ridicule and violence. People don't generally opt in unless they really mean it.
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Most people only ever learn high school level biology, where that "fact" is taught. That's not bad, it's just an incomplete picture. Few people take the time to study further because there's no need for them to do s
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by socialismisok 4y ago
Apologies, I'm happy to work with whatever your icon of unmanliness is. The specific objective was to identify that there are spreads of people who appear to the general public as more or less manly. Please, if you have an alternative,
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I'm trying to articulate my understanding of what the typical American considers manly. Do you have a different understanding of what the archetype is? I'm happy to work with that.
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by socialismisok 4y ago
If I choose to say "pregnant people" and I explain that I'm choosing that word to intentionally include both pregnant women and pregnant non-women, is that shaming or bullying? If I then go to my peers and say, "heads up
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by socialismisok 4y ago
This would presumably undercount, given the huge social stigma. I wouldn't be surprised if the actual figure were closer to 1% if being trans carried zero social stigma.
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I literally said I don't impose it on others. Others make attempts to accommodate me and I feel more included as a result. If your workplace said, "we've got some private rooms to work if it would make you more comfortable, i
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I've got some bad news about our culture, people regularly police each other based on clothing. I think it's a bad practice. If I want to wear a skirt and call myself a man or a woman wants to wear pants, who the fuck cares. (Trad
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by socialismisok 4y ago
I am deeply uncomfortable in gendered spaces. Many places offer gender neutral spaces (eg restrooms that are all genders). I don't require everyone to make me comfortable, but I do positively notice when someone does. If I go to my off

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