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by smeej 3y ago
I read that headline to ask about a cat's emergency stopping at first and that sounded like a much funnier article.
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by smeej 3y ago
It feels like I'm missing something important. Even if you could reassemble them using computer vision, how are you going to spend them?
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by smeej 3y ago
Is it just me or wouldn't this actually work better with a flat box than a Lego-shaped one? Unless you're somehow driving corresponding holes into the bottoms of your bricks, what advantage do the pips on top provide? If anythin
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by smeej 3y ago
Even so, a pension system for UK schoolteachers probably does have the bandwidth to get an in-person identity check done.
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by smeej 3y ago
I was recently appalled to discover how many of my subscriptions auto-updated the expiration date when my card expired. I had hoped to use "ignore it until charges stop going through because jumping through their hoops is ridiculous&
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by smeej 3y ago
The one that frustrates me the most is Home Depot's HubSpace. You do not have to link the devices to the router. They can be operated by Bluetooth. However, the app to control them cannot work without a connection to the server. It
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by smeej 3y ago
Internal Family Systems therapy has helped me understand and work through this a lot. I have a very robotic "manager" part that spent a lot of time running things for me. It takes input from the nearest authority figure and precis
908.
by smeej 3y ago
It's meant to be decoded into regular text later. Main usage is taking notes or dictation. Trying to write as fast as an average person speaks makes it very hard to do anything else, like be an attentive conversation partner, but scrib
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by smeej 3y ago
It's the "and leave it" part everyone is disagreeing with you about. Major trauma changes you. There is no "leaving it." There is only relearning how to be the way you are now in the world so you can move forward.
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by smeej 3y ago
I had a grief therapist start out by telling me the first thing we needed to address was my "pathological belief that my sister and my nephew were still alive somewhere." Baffled, I was like, "In heaven? My...very mainstream
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by smeej 3y ago
How many people have to reply and tell you you're completely and totally wrong about this before you'll at least take a step back and consider that you've missed something important? Serious question. I'm genuinely wonde
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by smeej 3y ago
What's your understanding of how a body heals a major wound, like the loss of an arm? It has to integrate this into a reshaped understanding of itself. That's what healing is. The core muscles have to rebalance to compensate f
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by smeej 3y ago
> You are perhaps describing prolonged abuse, but we were talking about typical one-shot tragedies or losses one has to endure. They don't maim you for life unless you choose to hold on to the pain extensively. No, I'm even ver
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by smeej 3y ago
It could be both. Thanks for that reminder. In my case, it turned out not to be, as working through the trauma eliminated the symptoms that had previously been interpreted as caused by autism, but it's certainly possible to be both aut
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by smeej 3y ago
I don't know if this will be helpful to you specifically, or maybe just someone else who reads these comments, but I also thought for years that I was autistic, without having been formally diagnosed. Even my mother thought so when I e
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by smeej 3y ago
Exactly. Anyone who can't imagine a failure case where they suddenly become a "criminal" because people who disagree with them obtain control of the legislative apparatus haven't read enough history (or have extremely bo
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by smeej 3y ago
> can others just subtly keep way more items in their working memory at once? This is how my mind works, but I've actually found it to be extremely un usual, and I would say your estimate of 90% of people's not thinking like m
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by smeej 3y ago
Nobody's a criminal, until they are. I wonder what it would be like to hold no opinions that you could ever imagine becoming controversial enough to get you flagged for investigation of some kind. I live in an intensely polarized count
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by smeej 3y ago
> A big life can be very short. My nephew was born by emergency c-section after my sister experienced sudden cardiac death at age 29, 8 months pregnant. They were able to restart his heart, but after six days, he had recovered no brain a
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by smeej 3y ago
This is...so oblivious to trauma that it's hard to respond. The perpetrator (or the situation, in cases of unforeseeable accidents) makes you a victim. You do not. Many, many wounds are debilitating for life. Body parts don't gr
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by smeej 3y ago
I'm so sorry for your loss, and the added layers of pain around how it happened. The thought of trying to put that into words that have to be shared publicly hurts my heart for you. There's nothing I can say that will make it be
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by smeej 3y ago
No, I don't think so. I think it's closer to "a plug-and-play computer for self-hostable apps, running locally, with most things configured so you're reasonably secure and you don't have to guess about everything.&q
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by smeej 3y ago
Oh I thought they were talking about SHaaS as a "solution" that doesn't really solve the problems, because you're either trusting the hosts not to decrypt and use your data, or you're encrypting it, which has all
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by smeej 3y ago
I really thought this article was going to offer a solution, not just enumerate the problems. I'm already all too familiar with the problems. I like what Umbrel[0] is doing. They're essentially expecting that just like computing
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by smeej 3y ago
I'm adding this comment as a note to anyone who's walking alongside people who are grieving, or even is in the middle of a grief experience yourself. Ring theory [0], developed by Susan Silk, was one of the most helpful guidelines
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by smeej 3y ago
> One thing I learned from my in-laws' tragedy, was that the grief never goes away, but you will grow stronger in dealing with it. Picture your life as a a big, clear ball. When the grief first happens, it's like a giant, dark
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by smeej 3y ago
I do express it as a Christian, and I don't believe I could any other way. After losing my sister and my nephew six years ago (today would have been her 36th birthday, actually), I tried mightily to come up with any other way through
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by smeej 3y ago
My story overlaps a lot with yours, especially the parts about never being able to form secure attachments (though for slightly different reasons). I was stuck for a very, very, very long time until I encountered Internal Family Systems the
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by smeej 3y ago
"Integrating the trauma into your personality and by extension your life" isn't optional. Biologically, the trauma changed both your body and your mind. Your neurological and endocrine systems do not respond to stimuli as t
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by smeej 3y ago
No, the alternative is working through it, processing it, and integrating it into your story of yourself as something you've overcome. "Letting it go" lands the same as "excise it from your life," which isn't

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