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by smeej 2y ago
My brother and I talk a lot about this, how we're only 5 years apart, but the first 5 years of my childhood and the last 5 of his are full of completely different types of abuse, and we weren't really treated the same during the
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by smeej 2y ago
I'm really glad to see courageous people changing the trend on this one, though I hope it continues to be an invitation to others to share, not a demand. These kinds of things fester in darkness and loneliness. I think bringing them
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by smeej 2y ago
My mom keeps talking about how much she wants grandchildren. My brother decided the trauma stops with him, so until he's sure he wouldn't repeat any of dad's harmful behaviors, he doesn't want to have kids. I'm only
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by smeej 2y ago
Speaking for my own abuser, he is the only subject in his entire world. The rest of the universe is full of objects only. He has demonstrated (to clinicians, not just to me) that he has no ability whatsoever to realize that other people are
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by smeej 2y ago
I love that "and I'm fine" line. I see it a lot in contexts where someone is defending something that seems barbaric to me, which I would consider a very clear sign that they are not fine. It leads to a lot of, "You ke
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by smeej 2y ago
I've been going through a similar metamorphosis, but it didn't start until 36. I wonder sometimes whether I'll have missed out on some things permanently because of it. For instance, every year my odds of carrying a healthy c
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by smeej 2y ago
I'll grant revolutionaries are not always the good guys, but you seem to be taking for granted that an "enemy of the state" never is. We're talking about people who wrote software, not bombers.
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by smeej 2y ago
Moving it from one wallet to another does virtually nothing if someone cares to look. And the exchange thing doesn't help much, because all you've done is change which third party knows more about you than they need, the merchant
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by smeej 2y ago
Very few of them are carrying openly (why make yourself the first target?), but I stand by my statement that I'd be shocked. A youth league bowling tournament would be an exception, given the preponderance of children. There was a com
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by smeej 2y ago
Probably? Create a thing, launch it, die shortly thereafter without touching it much further. But in any case, I didn't say it was impossible. I said it's unbelievably hard, and I stand by that.
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by smeej 2y ago
It does when it's common. In northern New England, for example, like Maine and New Hampshire, I'd estimate 1 in every 3 or 4 people in most public spaces are armed. I'd be shocked to find out it's less than 1 in 10 in an
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by smeej 2y ago
It hides the total value of your assets from a merchant. Imagine the privacy implication if every time you swiped your credit card, the merchant could see your entire net worth. It'd be a disaster. These blockchains are public ledgers.
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by smeej 2y ago
It is unbelievably hard to "go anonymous" when the entity trying to de-anonymize you is a nation state.
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by smeej 2y ago
It's a scary precedent if they successfully argue that the absence of evidence is evidence of deletion. Where/how do you ever stop that train once it leaves the station?
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by smeej 2y ago
Wow! I'm glad there are people like you out there to be excited about it! I glazed over before I even got to the end of your comment, with the dazzled sort of awestruck glaze where I realize I will never do even a tiny fraction of the
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by smeej 2y ago
I think I may just need to accept that the work it would take to get to this level would mean a whole life change. It's been 20+ years since I took calculus in high school, and I haven't taken a math or science class since. I reck
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by smeej 2y ago
How long does it take to learn the prerequisites to learn these if you don't already have a CS background? Reading through the list, I can barely parse half the titles due to acronyms and terms I've never seen before. Would I be a
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by smeej 2y ago
Doesn't it end up being a "no disparagement until the company goes public" clause, then? Once you sell the stock, are they going to come after you for the proceeds if you say something mean 20 years later?
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by smeej 2y ago
I feel like I'm on a completely different journey, one in which I realize my effort is up to me, but the results of my efforts are not--at all. I only get to live life moment by moment. All I can ever do is what seems to me to be the n
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by smeej 2y ago
$28M of somebody else's money seems like a small price to pay for securing enough attention to either address the situation that made this possible, or create a new market in it to close the arbitrage gap...and this is especially true
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by smeej 2y ago
I wonder if there's an equivalent for "aphantasia" for the other senses. If there is, I'm pretty sure I have it for taste. I can imagine whole detailed worlds and hold them in my imagination, but nothing tastes like anyt
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by smeej 2y ago
I think the idea is that thieves that have already been successful at removing the item from your possession are much less of a threat to your life than someone who is actively tracking where you are. It's a debate worth having, which
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by smeej 2y ago
Whose fault is that? Actions have consequences. This is definitely the parentified child in me speaking, but I'm sick of being the adult to this generation of perpetual children, especially while being mocked by them the whole time for
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by smeej 2y ago
As long as there are workers, it doesn't dry up entirely. I guess the problem then becomes the fact that U.S. fertility has already fallen below the replacement rate.
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by smeej 2y ago
I know you don't know me personally, but I don't want it. Living off of my children's labors feels deeply icky to me unless they offer their support willingly, especially when they're at the time in life that they most n
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by smeej 2y ago
I'm in the U.S., but I stopped paying attention to national news years ago when I realized how much of a waste of time it is to worry about things I can't change when I have a hard enough time living consistently with my own value
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by smeej 2y ago
I have an out-of-the-box suggestion: For any parents who have been paying in but agree to forego receiving any payments from SS, their children would have a choice: 1. Operate under the existing system. Pay into Social Security, and withdra
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by smeej 2y ago
It's telling to me that I completely sincerely have no idea which party you mean.
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by smeej 2y ago
Yeah, but the trust fund's running out doesn't mean there are no benefits anymore. It just means the only funds to pay them come from current payroll taxes. The trust fund can no longer make up the shortfall. SS may very well surv
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by smeej 2y ago
Perhaps this is my cynicism showing, but it's the Boomers who caused this problem. Let them suffer the shortfall as the natural consequence. They've been the political decision-makers most of their lives because there were so many

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